We're Dating the Same Guy
We're Dating the Same Guy explores the dating patterns people repeat, often without realizing it, and how to break them. Episodes cover attachment styles, intimacy, feminine and masculine energy, red flags, self-sabotage, and rebuilding your relationship with yourself. Through expert guests and real dating stories, the show examines what drives your love life. The goal is to help listeners stop dating on autopilot and date differently.
Episodes
EP 52: The Third Person on Every Date: Eating Disorders, Body Image & Dating with Zeynep Demirelli
If you've ever cancelled a date because of how you felt in your body that day — this episode is for you.Body image and eating disorders don't stay in the kitchen or the gym. They follow us onto the dating app, into the first date, into the bedroom, and into the moments when we finally start to let someone in. And yet, this is a topic that almost never gets talked about in dating spaces.Mad
EP 51: You've Been Asking the Wrong Questions After Every Date: The 4-Question Dating Checklist
You went on the date. You texted your friends. And immediately, every question was about him — did he like you, did he text, does he want a second date?But here's what we almost never stop to ask: Did you even like him?In this episode, Madden introduces a dating checklist that has nothing to do with his behavior — and everything to do with yours. Fresh off hosting her very first in-person dati
EP 50: Pelvic Health, Shame & Intimacy: What Your Doctor Isn't Telling You ft. Dr. Sarah Oreck
So many women are silently navigating pelvic pain, chronic BV, UTIs, and other symptoms — feeling embarrassed, dismissed by doctors, or completely disconnected from their own bodies. And what we don't talk about enough? How much this affects your confidence, your intimacy, and your relationship with yourself.In this episode, Madden is joined by Dr. Sarah Oreck, a Columbia-trained reproductive
EP 49: Social Media Is Killing Dating: How Your Phone Is Sabotaging Your Love Life
We have more ways than ever to meet people, communicate, and see how others are living their lives. And yet — research shows we're in the middle of a loneliness epidemic. More than 6 in 10 adults in the U.S. report feeling disconnected. So what's actually going on?In this solo episode, Madden gets into three specific ways that living in a digital world is quietly wrecking how we date — and
EP 48: Great at Dating, Terrible at Relationships: A Celebrity Matchmaker's Unfiltered Truth ft. Alessandra Conti
You've been on the dates. You've felt the spark — or you haven't. You've told yourself you have a "type." You've stayed friendly with your ex "just because." And you've done all of it while genuinely believing you're ready for a relationship.But what if most of what you've been taught about dating is quietly working against you?This week, Madden
EP 47: You Don't Have a Type, You Have a Pattern: 9 Dating Patterns Quietly Sabotaging Your Love Life
Have you ever looked back at everyone you've dated and thought… wait, why does this keep happening? This week Madden breaks down something that's been living in her head for months — and honestly, it cracked something open for her in a really big way.It started with a simple comment from her best friend: "He's totally your type." And she couldn't let it go. Because she
SEASON 3: Modern Dating Has a Problem — The Accountability Episode Nobody Asked For
Welcome to Season 3 of We're Dating the Same Guy!After a few weeks off, Madden had a lot of time to reflect on modern dating, how Madden's showing up as a host, and the things that have been genuinely driving her crazy lately in the dating space. And she's done keeping them in.In this season premiere, she's getting real about three things she keeps seeing that are quietly sabotagin
EP 45: Is it Chemistry or Just Anxiety? The Dating Pattern Anxious Attachers Need to Hear
Have you ever left a date feeling butterflies and obsessive thoughts and assumed it meant real chemistry? What if that feeling wasn't chemistry at all — what if it was anxiety? Y'all, they can feel almost identical. And if you've been confusing the two your whole dating life, this episode is going to be a game-changer.Madden breaks down the three key variables that are actually at play
EP 44: Did Disney Ruin My Dating Life? Girl Boss, Soft Girl Era… or Something In Between? with Angie Lee
Are you an ambitious woman who's been told you're "too much"? Or have you bought into the idea that you need to choose between crushing it in your career and having a fulfilling relationship? This conversation with Angie Lee is going to completely shift how you think about ambition, feminine energy, and what it really means to build a life you love.Angie is a college dropout turn
EP 43: Single on Valentine's Day? The Questions Nobody's Asking
This Valentine's Day, you don't need another article telling you how to cope with being single. You don't need tips for surviving the day or substitutes for what you actually want. In this solo episode, host Madden challenges the three dominant narratives around Valentine's Day—the "you don't need anyone" approach, the "here's how to get through it" mind
EP 42: Burnout, Boredom & Autopilot: The Real Reason Dating Feels So Hard
Ever feel like you're just going through the motions on dates? Asking the same questions, having the same conversations, dating the same types of people over and over? You're not alone—and you're probably dating on autopilot.In this solo episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on something that's been showing up in both my nine-to-five life as a fitness instructor and my dating l
EP 41: Am I in a Situationship? Why It's So Hard to Walk Away
Let's talk about that person you keep going back to even though you know better! In this raw, vulnerable solo episode, I'm sharing my 18-month situationship saga—the hot and cold dynamic, the false promises, and the moment I finally closed the door for good on January 1st.If you've ever felt confused about where you stand, made excuses for inconsistent behavior, or held onto hope that
EP 40: How to Be Quality so You Attract Quality: The Secret to High Performance Dating with Coach Dar
What if you approached dating the same way high performers approach everything else in their lives—with intention, strategy, and a commitment to excellence? Today I'm sitting down with Coach Dar, a mental performance coach who works with pro athletes and executives, and she's breaking down why quality attracts quality and what it actually takes to show up as quality in the dating world.Here's the
EP 39: Is My Biological Clock Ticking? The Truth About Fertility Anxiety, Dating & Egg Freezing with Dr. Lucky Sekhon
Are you feeling the weight of fertility pressure every time you swipe on a dating app? You're not alone. Research shows that 72% of Gen Z women experience age-related fertility anxiety—many by age 23—and nearly half feel pressured to have children before 30. But what if that panic is actually preventing you from making the best decisions for your future?In this deeply honest conversation, I si
EP 38: Don’t Let Your Breakup Break You: 5 Steps to Turn a Breakup Into a Breakthrough
What if your most painful breakup was actually a portal to your most empowered self?In this deeply vulnerable solo episode, Madden shares the story of the breakup that changed everything - not because it was her longest relationship or most painful ending, but because it became the catalyst that launched this very podcast and her return to coaching.This episode isn't just about healing after h
EP 37: Dating Burnout in 2025: How to Stay Hopeful When Modern Dating Feels Impossible
Dating in 2025 is exhausting. If you're feeling burnt out, frustrated by ghosting, or questioning whether good people even exist anymore, this episode is for you.In this raw, filter-off solo episode, I'm taking the dating coach hat completely off and sharing my honest experience as someone actively dating in the modern landscape. With 79% of millennials and Gen Z reporting dating app burno
EP 36: You're Not Bad at Dating — Your Profile Is: Online Dating Tips that Actually Work with Coach Erika Ettin
Feeling burned out from dating apps? You're not alone—79% of users report dating app fatigue. In this episode, I sit down with Erika Ettin, founder of A Little Nudge and dating coach for 15 years, to break down exactly what makes online dating profiles stand out and how to actually convert matches into dates.Erika shares her "Name Your Five" framework for creating profiles that spark
EP 35: You're the Only Single Person at the Holiday Party (Now What?): How to Own the Holidays Single
The holidays can bring up complicated feelings when you're single—but what if you stopped treating this season like something to survive and started owning it instead? In this solo episode, Madden gets raw and honest about navigating holiday gatherings without a partner, the unexpected clarity that can come from seasonal reflection, and why your relationship status has nothing to do with how f
EP 34: From Anxious to Secure: Stop Chasing, Overthinking & Losing Yourself in Love
Anxious attachment isn't a life sentence—it's a pattern you can heal. In this transformative episode, internationally recognized relationship coach Trevor Hanson shares his journey from working at Tesla while trapped in toxic relationships to helping thousands break free from anxious attachment patterns.If you've ever felt like you're dating the same person repeatedly, sabotaging h
EP 33: Combining Finances in Marriage: Money Talks, Financial Infidelity & Building Wealth
Should couples combine finances after marriage? Financial therapist Lindsay Konchar shares expert advice on money conversations, avoiding financial infidelity, and building wealth together.In Part 2 of our conversation with financial therapist Lindsay Konchar, we dive deep into the money questions that come up when relationships get serious. From combining finances to navigating financial infideli
EP 32: Financial Compatibility in Dating: How Finances Impact Attraction, Compatibility, & Long-Term Love
Can money make or break your relationship? In Part 1 of this two-part series, financial therapist Lindsey Konchar reveals why financial compatibility matters just as much as emotional connection—and how to talk about money without the awkwardness.Discover why your money habits were formed by age 10, when to bring up finances while dating (hint: earlier than you think), and how to lead with vulnera
EP 31: Sacred Union & Emotional Intelligence: How to Attract Conscious Love by Becoming Your Highest Self
More than 90 percent of Gen Z report feeling frustrated with dating apps, and 79 percent of college-age people say they don't use dating apps regularly. If you're exhausted by the swipe culture and ready to date differently, this episode is for you.Francesco Amati found his wife through Instagram—not by DMing strangers, but by creating intentional content about the love he wanted to attrac
EP 30: Detoxing Your Ex: How to Heal, Let Go, and Rebuild After Love Loss
If you've ever gone through a breakup that left you gasping for air weeks or months later—refreshing their profile, replaying every moment, wondering what went wrong—this episode is for you.In today's conversation, host Madden sits down with Cole Zesiger, breakup and relationship coach and author of Exes and No's: The Breakup Advice You Don't Want to Hear, to dive deep into how we
EP 29: Dating After Trauma: Setting Boundaries & Reclaiming Your Self-Worth
What if the endless healing work you're doing is actually keeping you stuck? In this raw and transformative conversation, sexual liberation coach Sammy Schultz shares her journey from numbing sexual trauma with alcohol to becoming the strong woman she needed growing up—and how that completely changed the way she dates.EPISODE TIMELINE:00:00 - Introduction & Welcome03:11 - Sammy's Backg
EP 28: The Truth Behind Porn Addiction: The Silent Habit Pulling Men Away from Deeper Intimacy & Connection
What if the quiet habit shaping men's views on sex, intimacy, and connection is something almost nobody talks about in dating? In this raw, eye-opening conversation, Jeremy Lipkowitz uncovers how porn actually rewires the brain, impacts real-world intimacy, and shows up in the relationships we're trying to build. This isn't about judgment. It's about awareness, accountability, and
EP 27: The Systems of Conscious Relationships: Engineering Love, Boundaries & Intimacy
What if the key to lasting love isn't chemistry or compatibility—but conscious engineering?In this episode, Madden sits down with relationship coach Scott Wild, whose background as a software engineer gives him a radically different lens on relationships. Scott helps us understand how to build partnerships that don't just survive—they actually thrive through intentional design.EPISODE TIME
EP 26: How to NOT Get Swept Away in the Movie Moments: Why Your Purpose is Your Dating Anchor | Season 2 Premiere
It's so easy to get swept away in early dating when you're texting nonstop and spending all your free time together, slowly drifting from friends and hobbies . But what if dating could ADD to your life instead of becoming your whole life?Welcome to Season 2 of We're Dating the Same Guy!After a wild weekend in Vegas that felt like a movie scene, Madden shares how to not get lost in and
Season 1 FINALE: Dating Patterns vs Love - What The Materialist Movie Teaches About Modern Relationships
In the season 1 finale of We're Dating the Same Guy, host Madden sits down with fellow podcaster Alexis to break down the movie "The Materialist" and what it reveals about modern dating patterns, attachment styles, and the choice between financial security and emotional connection.EPISODE TIMELINE:00:00 - Season 1 reflection and podcast journey05:30 - The Materialist movie discussion
EP 24: Finding God in Love: Transform Your Relationships Through Spiritual Security
Tired of feeling anxious and insecure in your relationships? In today's episode, relationship coach and spiritual guide Kevin Crenshaw reveals why your dating patterns might be rooted in a deeper spiritual search - and how cultivating a relationship with God can transform the way you love.Kevin shares his raw journey from being a chronic people pleaser whose first three relationships ended in
EP 23: From Avoidant to Secure: Decoding Men’s Emotional Availability
Are you tired of dating emotionally unavailable men? In this vulnerable conversation, sex and relationship therapist Joe Molinari breaks down why so many men struggle with emotional availability and what you can do about it.Joe shares his personal journey from emotional avoidance to vulnerability, explaining how childhood conditioning creates patterns that pull men away from connection. We explore
EP 22: Dating Sober: How Alcohol-Free Dating Is Transforming Modern Relationships
Would you go on a first date without alcohol? 39% of singles now say yes—and it's changing everything about modern dating. In this raw conversation, Alex Zauner (founder of Lucille's alcohol-free experiences and 11 years sober) reveals why removing liquid courage creates deeper connections and better relationships.EPISODE TIMELINE:00:00 - Opening: The first date question that changes every
EP 21: From the Pods to Real Life: David from Love Is Blind on Love, Vulnerability and Life Post Cameras
Dave from Love is Blind Minneapolis gets real about what happens when the cameras stop rolling. In this raw conversation, we dive into vulnerability in dating, trusting your intuition, and how reality TV changed his approach to relationships forever. If you've ever wondered what it's like to fall in love on national television and then learn even more about yourself in the process, this ep
EP 20: Dating Psychology: How to Rewire Your Brain for Better Relationships
Ever wonder why you keep dating the same type of person? Brazilian brain health coach Fabiana breaks down the neuroscience behind dating patterns and reveals how your brain creates the relationship cycles you find yourself stuck in.EPISODE TIMELINE:3:18 - Meet Fabiana: From Ipanema Beach to brain coaching8:45 - Your brain on patterns: The survival machine explained15:20 - Breaking down the amygdal
EP 19: From the Guy Women Didn't Want to Date to Dating Coach: The Energetics and Strategy behind Smarter Dating
What happens when a man realizes he's the guy women don't want to date and completely transforms himself? In this raw conversation, dating and embodiment coach Tyler shares his journey from being disconnected and sabotaging intimacy to helping high-value women date differently.EPISODE TIMELINE:00:00 - Introduction: When men realize they're the problem04:15 - Tyler's transformation
EP 18: Red Flag or Yellow Flag: Are You Mislabeling Dating Behaviors or Just Self Sabotaging?
Are you calling everything a red flag in dating? Dating coach and therapist Michelle O'Connell joins host Madden to decode the difference between red flags, yellow flags, and green flags in modern dating. Learn why your nervous system might confuse healthy partners for boring ones, how past trauma affects your ability to recognize good partners, and the subtle patterns that show up months into
EP 17: Tantric Dating: How to Move from Performance to Presence in Intimacy
Transform your dating life through the ancient art of Tantra. In this episode, sex and relationship therapist Julie shares how tantric principles can help you break toxic dating patterns and create deeper, more authentic connections.EPISODE TIMELINE:04:22 - Welcome & Julie's Introduction07:34 - Julie's Unique Journey: From Yoga Pioneer to Sex Therapist13:07 - Working with Gopher Footba
EP 16: Choosing Love vs Falling in Love: Real Couple's 7-Year Guide to Conscious Relationships
In this raw and intimate conversation, real couple Allison and Anthony share their 7-year journey from a casual Tinder meetup in a Costco parking lot to building a conscious, choice-based relationship. They open up about the difference between falling in love and choosing love daily, how they've navigated living in 5 different states together, and what it really takes to grow individually whil
EP 15: Dating as a Meditation: Sacred Self-Discovery Through Mindful Dating
Have you ever considered that dating could be a form of meditation? In this transformative episode, KC Baker (founder of WomanSpeak and creator of Velvet Flow) shares her groundbreaking approach to conscious dating that will change how you truly think about relationships.EPISODE TIMELINE:00:00 - 02:30 - Introduction & Episode Setup02:30 - 07:15 - Guest Introduction & Background07:15 - 12:4
EP 14: Why Men Aren't Approaching You IRL: Truth Behind Why Dating Apps Are Ruining Your Love Life
Dating coach Joe Stroud pulls back the curtain on the male experience in modern dating. From why men seem emotionally checked out to the real dynamics shaping attraction, this conversation explores what happens when both men and women drop the performance and connect from truth. If you've ever wondered why dating feels so disconnected, this episode reveals the patterns keeping us all stuck.EPI
EP 13: Men's Mental Health After Divorce: The Hidden Grief + Shame No One Talks About
Divorce is the second most painful life experience after losing a loved one - yet men's emotional journey through this grief is rarely discussed. In this raw, honest conversation, divorce coach Addison breaks down the silent struggle that men face after relationship loss and why traditional masculinity makes healing so much harder.EPISODE TIMELINE:00:00 Intro: Why everyone needs to hear this02:30
EP 12: The Law of Attraction & Releasing Control: The 4 Lies we Tell Ourselves in Dating
Tired of dating the same type of guys over and over? Your mindset might be the problem. In this episode, we dive deep into how the law of attraction shapes your dating life and explore the 4 toxic beliefs that keep you stuck in negative dating patterns.EPISODE TIMELINE:00:00 - Intro: Why We Keep Dating the Same Guy01:45 - The Law of Attraction SparkNotes: Like Attracts Like03:30 - The Infinity Loo
EP 11: How Somatic Healing Can Help You Break Trauma-Driven Dating Patterns
Why do you keep attracting the same type of partner? Why do you get triggered by things that shouldn't logically bother you? Why can you understand your patterns cognitively but still repeat them?In this deeply transformative conversation, trauma-informed coach Jakob reveals why your body holds the answers that your mind can't access. This isn't just another therapy approach - it's
EP 10: Why Your Brain Keeps Choosing the Wrong Partners: The Trauma Connection
This powerful episode with Dr. Linnea Swanson, MFT and brain spotting trainer, explores how trauma becomes encoded in our nervous system and unconsciously guides our relationship choices. Learn why that "spark" might actually be a warning sign, how generational trauma impacts dating patterns, and practical strategies to rewire your brain for healthier relationships. Essential listening f
EP 9: Reality TV to Real Love: Lessons & Healing after the Pods
Madden is joined by Kelly Chase who was on Season 1 of Love Is Blind. While her dating life played out in front of the world, what most people don’t realize is the massive transformation and evolution Kelly has gone through since the show aired.She’s built her own brand as a business and mindset coach, podcast host, and influencer— helping people find love, success, and money in a whole new way.In
EP 8: Single, Not Lonely: Embracing the Power of Being Alone
In this powerful solo episode, host Madden Zappa explores the complex emotions of being single, particularly in the aftermath of a breakup. She shares her personal journey of loving solitude while simultaneously experiencing post-breakup loneliness, highlighting the sometimes contradictory nature of singlehood.Madden challenges society's view that singlehood is merely a waiting period or a pro
EP 7: The Art of Receiving: Expanding Your Capacity for Love
This episode explores the powerful and often misunderstood art of receiving. Receiving isn't passive but an active, intentional energy that can transform not just your dating life but every area of your existence. EPISODE TIMELINE:00:00 - Introduction and welcome01:23 - Introducing Erin Nicole Porter and her expertise03:48 - Defining the concept of receiving and self-abandonment08:33 - How to
EP 6: Exploring Non-Monogamy and Kink: Dating Beyond Norms
This episode is an invitation to think outside of normative relationships and even potentially lead you to question what we've been taught about love, commitment, connection, and relationshipsPolyamory and kink are often misunderstood or even stigmatized, but here’s the truth: the more we understand the spectrum of human desire, the more permission we give ourselves to date — and love — more authe
EP 5: Anxious vs. Grounded Masculine Energy: How to Spot the Difference in Dating
What truly is the difference between anxious masculine energy and grounded masculine energy? And how do they both appear in relationships while dating:Madden sits down with Jen Briggs to explore the crucial differences between anxious and grounded masculine energy in dating. One type feels magnetic, intense, and immediate, while the other feels steady, intentional, and secure. They discuss how to
EP 4: Dating While Successful: Why High-Achieving Women Need a Different Approach to Love
What happens when ambitious, driven, independent women meet modern dating culture?In this episode Madden sits down with Caprisha, a breakthrough advisor for purpose-driven women, to discuss the unique challenges high-achieving women face in dating and relationships. They explore what it really looks like to soften without shrinking, to receive without lowering your standards, and how powerful, ind
EP 3: Anxious, Avoidant, or Secure? How Attachment Styles Shape Your Dating Life
If you’re tired of dating on repeat and wondering why you keep attracting the same type of partners, this episode is for you! Attachment styles play a major role in how we show up in relationships—how we connect, how we handle conflict, and even why we push people away (or cling too tightly).Today, I’m joined by Tori McCabe, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in attachment
EP 2: Gaining Closure and Clarity When None Is Given
Ever been ghosted? Left in the dark with no explanation? Waiting for answers that never come? You’re not alone. In this episode of We’re Dating the Same Guy, we’re diving deep into the painful reality of not getting closure—and how to move forward anyway.💔 Why we crave closure and whether it actually helps us heal💡 The hard truth: Why some people will NEVER give you the answers you want🛑 How waiti
EP 1: We're Dating the Same Guy
Welcome to the very first episode of We’re Dating the Same Guy—the podcast that dives deep into what’s really driving your love life. If you've ever wondered why you keep attracting the same type of men, facing the same relationship frustrations, and repeating the same cycles—this is the podcast for you.WHAT TO EXPECT IN EPISODE 1:🩷My personal wake-up call that made me realize I was dating the
COMING SOON: The Podcast That Will Make You Rethink Dating
Welcome to We’re Dating the Same Guy—the podcast that dives deep into what’s really driving your love life. If you've ever wondered why you keep dating the same guy... over... and over... and over again... then this is for you.We begin APRIL 1.Hit FOLLOW so you don’t miss our very first episodes. It’s time to date differently.Stay connected with our host, Madden Zappa
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