Find love after 40 with Renée Suzanne
A dating podcast for women over 40 who want to find true love. Host Renée Suzanne shares lessons from her 20-year dating journey to help listeners find love in less time. She offers advice on dating effectively and building the committed relationship you want with a man who cherishes and adores you. The show emphasizes taking action instead of waiting for love to happen.
Episodes
115. Swipe smart: Keeping creeps out of your DM's
It really sucks to put your best foot forward, get on a dating app and start chatting with guys and then have them send you an inappropriate picture.It’s awful and beyond disrespectful.It infuriates me that men do this and if this has happened to you, I’m so sorry.People really should treat each other better than this.But before you delete your dating apps and swear off dating and/or men, I want y
114. The men who taught me how to love
Sushi, oysters, BBQ joints, hookah bars, how to connect with random people and have conversations, how to appreciate men, even men I’d never see again.Running around the city in my heels meeting random men who opened doors for me, bought me dinners and drinks, sometimes showed up drunk and tried to kiss me on first dates, and often broke my heart taught me so much.Thank you to all the men who taug
113. Why disappointment is normal & how to keep going
If you have children, you’ve probably experienced entitlement.It can be maddening, but it’s part of growing up and hopefully it passes.But I see a lot of entitlement in the dating space.I think the prevalence of Disney movies, romance novels, TV and chick flicks contribute to this.We know these things are just entertainment and we don’t consciously mean to internalize them the way we do, but it’s
112. Are you craving emotional intensity?
Most of us want to feel an emotional connection with the person we’re dating. If things feel as bland as a piece of dry toast, your relationship is not likely to last.But sometimes we cross the line into Drama Central, where we expect every exchange to be a heated declaration of emotional connection, a confession of vulnerability, trials or deep dark secrets. We sometimes bond over our traumas and
111. Change is not optional
If you’ve been single for longer than a year or so I can pretty much guarantee you that your situation is not a product of just not having met the right guy.
You are looking at a mindset gap or a skill gap, and most likely both. Unless you address these things, you are likely to not only remain single, but create and intensify unhealthy dating patterns and it will get harder as you age.
Continuing
110. Do you hate dating apps?
I remember telling one of my friends that I didn’t really think I was going to meet a great guy online.
I was just “duty dating” and she responded that she didn’t feel that way at all. She actually expected to meet great guys. And she did! She had a blast with online dating while I trudged around like a deflated balloon constantly getting disappointed.
So who was right? We both were. We got what w
109. Hope is not a strategy
If you’re hoping that your luck will change when it comes to dating, I get it.
I spent many years hoping for the same thing.
After all, what else are women supposed to do?
Isn’t something terribly wrong with you if you need to actually do anything proactive to find love?Well, I finally decided to call BS on that idea and I hope you will too.
Because hope is not getting you the results you want.
Ho
108. Are you learning from experience?
I have a friend who will remain nameless, but it’s someone that I know in real life so don’t think I’m calling any of you ladies out.
This friend is super smart, but lost her spouse a few years ago in a horrible way and ended up a single parent with a full-time job. It was pretty awful.
She soon met someone in real life who was recently divorced, much younger and had a young child. a very tumultu
107. He's perfect except he's not asking you out
Back in my single days, my favorite flavor of dating dysfunction was pining away for men who didn’t want to date me.I was so adept at lying to myself that I spent years nursing crushes on these men.
I was convinced that they would come around. They’d see how perfect we were for each other and that I was such a catch. My feelings were what mattered, not theirs.
Obviously because we were perfect f
106. Are you worried about leading him on?
Have you ever stopped seeing a man because you were afraid of leading him on? What exactly does it really mean to lead a man on?
I asked the Googles, and what I found was very interesting.
Leading someone on is sending mixed signals, deliberately giving a false impression of romantic interest, excessive friendliness or flirting with no intention of pursuing a romantic relationship, seeking validat
105. 4 reasons you haven't found your guy YET Reason #4
Do you think dating is a waste of time? I sure used to. It all seemed so futile.
Year after year would slip by and all I’d have to show for it was another heartbreak or 2 if I’d managed to meet anyone I was interested in at all.
You cannot afford to spend your time this way. It’s time to make some changes.
Time is not your friend as a single woman. I know this is harsh, but I'm not here to blow s
104. 4 reasons you haven't found your guy YET Reason #3
I’m willing to bet anything that you’re scrolling past good guys all the time on the apps.
You’re overlooking these men in favor of who you think you should be dating, but those guys never work out.
No you don’t have to have a certain type. Have you noticed that those guys never work out? Why would you tell yourself that story? Stop it now if you want a man in your life anytime soon.
Most women on
103. 4 reasons you haven't found your guy YET Reason #2
You need to get real about what dating looks like after 40 so that you can have a fighting chance at getting into a real relationship with a good guy.
This isn’t an easy thing to do after 40, but we tend to make it even harder by not facing the reality of what dating and relationships look like at this life stage.
When you expect it to look like it did in your 20’s (even though nothing else does!)
102. 4 reasons you haven't found your guy YET Reason #1
In order to find a good guy out there, you have to do something to make it happen. I want you to give up on the myth that it’s going to just happen one of these days and get to work. Stop believing things like:Love happens when you least expect it
It happens when it is meant to be
It will happen if it’s meant to happen
You’ll just go about your business and see what happens.
That might work when y
101. Why you need an amazing dating profile
Your future husband is on a dating app right now looking for you.
He gets as frustrated scrolling through all the ridiculousness, just like you do.
I want you to help him find you.
The best way to do this is to have a top notch dating profile.
And yes, the pictures matter. You need those too.
But your profile must stand out.
The men you want to meet actually read them and decide how to treat
100. Who do you find attractive?
I once met a guy speed dating and I thought he was very handsome.It later became apparent that he thought I was someone else when he scheduled our follow up date.
I thought he was very handsome until I didn’t.
This was an excellent, but very painful lesson for me and it made me think about a lot of things.
What makes someone attractive?
How tall/handsome/successful he is?
Where he lives? Where he
99. Dating is Training for Real Love
If you’re anything like me when I was single, you just want to skip to the good part and be in an amazing relationship.
Looking for a guy is hard. Early dating feels clunky and awkward.
You think that if you could just meet the right person and get into a relationship, everything would be fine.
I found out from experience that this is not true at all.
I think that dating being what it is is the
98. Are you taking your dreams seriously?
I have a funny analogy for you parents out there.
Has your child ever asked you to buy them something that they had the money for?
They REEEEAAALLLY wanted it and pleaded with you to get it for them?
And when you suggested that they could use their own money to buy it, they suddenly didn’t want it as much?
I had 4 kiddos and this happened often.
It’s kind of hilarious when you think about it.
It’s
97. Do you know a lot about dating?
Do you know someone who watches basketball all the time?
Are they a pro basketball player?
Probably not.
Because knowledge is not enough to actually get good at basketball. And the same is true for dating.
I LOVE that you’re listening to this podcast AND, I want you to take action.
Have you:Written your profile? Taken awesome pictures? Logged onto a dating site?How many new men are you talking t
96. Are you attracted to unavailable men?
Unavailable men are like the junk food of dating.
If you’ve ever tried to quit anything that’s bad for you, you know how hard it is to change your preferences from things that are bad to you to things that are good for you.
It involves work, but it can be done.
The same goes for dating.
You simply must change your preferences if you’re ever going to get different results with dating.
Because dati
95. Do you have dating fatigue?
Is dating getting more exhausting and annoying by the minute?
Are you constantly frustrated with the entire thing and ready to throw in the towel?
Do you cut off men quickly, telling yourself you’re saving time, but then there’s no one left to date?
You may have dating fatigue. I’ve so been there.
But this mindset is counterproductive because:
It makes dating feel awful
You generally come off as
94. Why do men reach back out to you after a few months?
You’re minding your own business and having a perfectly decent life when out of the blue you get a text from HIM.
You know the one.
He dumped you awhile back.
Maybe he wasn’t looking for anything serious, got busy with work, or just kind of faded away.
And you were almost over him, but now this.
You really liked him and you haven’t met anyone near as good lately.
Should you give it another shot?
W
93. Dating after Divorce with Angie Wilson
Today I’m chatting with my good friend and coach Angie Taylor Wilson about dating after divorce. We tackle questions like:
How do I get back into dating after a divorce?
How can I avoid getting catfished?
When is the right time to date?
How do I know if I'm really ready to date?
When and how do I discuss dating situations with my children?
How do I handle disappointment?
And more!
Angie is a coa
92. Building wealth and achivieng your dreams with Germaine Foley
Today, I'm interviewing wealth building expert Germaine Foley. We discussed the importance of building wealth for single women.
Germaine, a life and money coach, shares her expertise in helping women build wealth without sacrificing their lifestyle. Her approach is different from the traditional personal finance advice, which often involves strict budgeting and slashing expenses.
Instead, Germai
91. Do you have too many dealbreakers?
When it comes to dating, most of us have preferences.
Things like tall, dark and handsome.
Ivy-league educated.
Knows where the good restaurants are.
Likes Sushi and The Cure.
We often tell ourselves that these things are must-haves, to our own detriment.
They are not.
A man does not have to like a certain kind of food, look a certain way or live a certain lifestyle to love you and treat you well.
90. What if you're not meeting anyone exciting?
My clients often tell me that they’re not finding anyone exciting on the dating sites and apps.
They scroll and swipe and sigh.
They come away deflated.
I get it. I used to feel this way too.
So I have a bit of a reality check for you today.
Expecting to find exciting guys among strangers on the internet is simply not a good plan.
The competition is likely to be pretty stiff for the most “exciting
89. Find a man who wants what you want
How many times have you heard about a man falling in love with a woman and completely doing a 180 on his entire life?
He quits robbing banks, sleeping around, living in his mother’s basement or whatever and turns into a stand up guy who promptly marries the long-suffering woman who believed in him or played hard to get or whatever thing she did that made her so special that he just had to change f
88. How coaching helped Lisa find a great guy
This week, we’re talking to my client Lisa who found a wonderful man in less than 4 weeks!
We’re talking about what dating was like before we worked together, her struggles with dating unavailable men and how (and why) she decided to reach out and work with a coach.
She shares what it’s really like to get coaching and date differently and what her experience was like.
Lisa learned how to actually
87. How to tell if a man is moving too fast
The new guy you’re seeing keeps messaging you, texting you, calling you and can’t wait to see you again.
Maybe he’s declared his feelings for you, wants you to meet his family, take down your profiles, or become exclusive.
This is all feeling a bit too soon for you and you’re starting to feel uncomfortable.
Should you have a talk? Set a boundary? Start to distance yourself or even tell him you don
86. How serious are you about finding love?
I have a question for you today.
How serious are you about finding a wonderful man to share your life with?
What are you willing to do to make it happen?
Do you think things like:
It would be nice if it happened
One of these days, I’ll just meet someone
I don’t need a man, but I’d like it if one just landed in my life somehow
These thoughts are passive and are not likely to get you the results y
85. How to tell if you’re being love-bombed
So many women confuse the gestures of a man who is excited about them with love bombing, so I decided to do a podcast about it to help you get clear on the difference.
Most new relationships go through a honeymoon phase and it does take a certain amount of enthusiasm to get a new connection going.
In most relationships, this interest and pursuit is generally on the man’s part and is well-intenti
84. Do you refuse to grow up?
As we age we tend to mature. We no longer dress, act or live the way we did when we were children or in our teens.
We become more responsible and consider our long term goals. We learn from experience and (hopefully) make better choices.
Our tastes also tend to mature. We trade Happy Meals for fine restaurants, a good steak or salad, maybe a glass of fine wine.
We can’t eat pizza or nachos eve
83. Are you a lone wolf?
You’ve listened to podcasts, read books, maybe even taken a few classes, but you still haven’t found your guy.
You think if you just hang in there a while longer, you’ll meet the right person.
And you’ll really try harder.
You’ll go back on the dating apps, polish up your profile, be less picky, stop wasting time with the wrong men.
You know what’s keeping you single and you’re determined to ma
82. Why do I have to do so much more work than most people?
Your bestie has been married since college.
Your colleague went on Match.com and got 3 dates her first week.
Your college roommate married a great guy even though she partied all through her 20’s and has never been promoted.
Meanwhile, you listen to podcasts, gorge on self-help books, take all the workshops and come up empty handed.
Why don’t other people have to work so hard to find love?
And w
81. Shop for undervalued men
This week, we’re continuing our discussion on shopping for men.
This is the final episode in a 4 part series, so go back and listen to the first 3 if you haven’t yet.
Last week I talked about how to evaluate the men who reach out to you based on their availability for a relationship and their character.
Specifically, you’re seeking a man who wants the kind of relationship you want.
This matters
80. How to value men effectively
OK, this episode is going to be more fun.
We’re going to talk about how to shop for men.
When you go shopping, it helps to have a list, and you may already have one.
If you do, think about what’s on it.
Height, weight, level of fitness, hair color, does he have hair??
How much money does he make? Sense of humor? Does he like the same foods as you?
Is he well-dressed, well-read, well-educated, ca
79. How to understand and maximize your value in the dating market
Welcome back!
This is part 2 of a 4 part series, so if you missed last week, go back and listen to that first.
In this episode, I’m talking about how to understand your own value in the dating market.
This might be a bit tough, so if you’re feeling tender today, I want to send you a big hug and encourage you to come back to this episode later when you’re feeling better.
If you’re ready for some
78. Dating is a marketplace
We romanticize love, relationships and dating in our culture.
We end up incredibly frustrated when it doesn’t look like it’s going to happen to us, and around the time we hit our 40s, we become increasingly discouraged and can often doubt whether it’s meant to be for us at all.
I think this is a shame and I want to offer you another point of view today.
What if there is no magic involved in the se
77. The true cost of dating drama
I used to think that dating was something you didn’t ask for help with.
I felt ashamed and didn’t want to admit the extent of my struggles.
Instead, I hoped that people would just assume that I was happy and didn’t need a man.
But as the years went by, I cared less about what others thought.
I ached to find a man to share my life with and nothing I did was working.
I didn’t know how to make it hap
76. Are you looking for a magical dating hack?
Sometimes I talk to women who are desperate for a dating solution and are hoping I can deliver the goods.
I can of course, but not in the way they hope.
They want me to provide some kind of magical secret that will help them attract the same kinds of men they dated in their 20’s, even though none of them worked out.
Or let them in on some secret location where only good men hang out so that they c
75. Do you hate online dating?
Have you had a bad experience with online dating or apps?
I have. I used to hate these platforms and intermittently swear them off.
I thought they were full of scammers, weirdos, cheaters and all kinds of awful.
And it’s true. There’s no shortage of these men on the internet, or anywhere else for that matter.
But what’s also true is there are lots of good men on these platforms as well.
And whe
74. Do you think there are no good men on the dating apps?
I hear all the time about how there are no good men on the dating sites/apps and I used to believe this myself.
But here’s the truth.
There are good men everywhere and they are mixed in with the bad ones.
Church/school/work/coffee shops/bars/dating sites/apps are all full of men.
The planet is literally full of people and about half of them are men.
There is no place on earth where there are onl
73. Do you want to meet him the "old-fashioned" way?
If you’re over 40, you probably remember the days before dating sites and apps were a thing.
And it’s so tempting to want to go back to the good old days when things were simpler.
I get it. I used to feel the same way.
Dating sites and apps felt so cold, scary and impersonal.
But here’s the thing, I wasn’t meeting very many new men back then.
And when I did, problems would arise:
I had no idea
72. How do I navigate dating if I have kids? with Mike and Kim Anderson
Today, I’m chatting with blended family experts, Mike and Kim Anderson about how to navigate the complexities of dating when you have kids. I wish I’d had this information when I was starting out!
Mike and Kim helped my husband and I navigate through blending our families early on when we were struggling and we would have been lost without them.
Their compassion and wisdom made our journey so much
71. Are you in a fantasy relationship?
Are you in love with a man who hasn’t asked you out?
Maybe you’re crushing on him from afar.
Maybe he’s a friend, colleague or you see him around every now and again.
He’s polite, chats with you, maybe even flirts a bit, but he never asks you out.
He doesn’t even ask for your number or suggest staying in touch in any way.
But you wonder, could there be something there?
Well, you probably know what
70. You deserve to go on real dates!
Has the guy you’re seeing suggested any of these things:
Takeout at his place
Netflix and chill
Helping him shop or do chores
Attending his events
Or does he keep texting and texting but never ask you out?
Or do you get the dreaded late-night text or call asking if he can come over or if you’ll come to his place?
NOOOOOOOOO!
If you’re seeing this behavior in the men you date, I’d like
69. How many self help books have you read about dating?
I was putting together a great reading list for my Dating Mastery clients and it made me realize that I have read a LOT of books about dating!
Honestly, I’d have a PhD in dating if they existed.
There are so many great books on this list and I learned a lot from all of them.
I used to spend hours and hours gorging on self-help back in the day, still do!
And while I LOOOOOOVE self-help books, I was
68. Can a matchmaker help me find a quality man with Lisa Goodman of Selective Search
Today we’re talking to a matchmaker!
If you’ve ever considered working with one, you will love this episode.
I’m interviewing Lisa with Selective Search and she’s answering my most burning questions like:
Who is a good candidate to work with a matchmaker?
What are the benefits of hiring a matchmaker?
What is the price range?
What can clients expect?
What should one look for in a matchmak
67. Things men say when they don't want to date you
Has the man you’re seeing started making excuses, seeing you less often, or saying any of the following things:
I need space
I’m not over my ex
I’m really busy right now
I’m going through a lot
I have a lot on my mind
My kids/parents/job really need me
I’m confused
Don’t wait a guy like this out. All of these things and more may be true, but a man who wants you in his life will figure it out, n
66. Is he a ladies man?
Does he have lots of women friends, stay friends with all his exes and drive you crazy with insecurity and jealousy?
Does he gaslight you about this or do you gaslight yourself?
Do you feel awful, insecure or jealous a lot of the time and wish he would change his ways?
Get rid of guys like this!!
Men who want to hang out with all the women generally have ginormous egos and aren’t interested in mon
65. How do I know if I need to work on my dating skills?
How do you really know if you’d benefit from working on your dating skills?
The short answer is, if you’re in your 40’s and not getting the results you want with dating, it is very likely due to a skill gap unless you have been hiding under a rock for the last 10 years.
Here are some things I’ve heard from women I’ve helped by teaching them basic dating skills:
You really want a great guy in you
64. Can "The Rules" help you find love? with Sherrie Schneider
I just had the best conversation with one of my favorite self-help authors, Sherrie Schnieder!
She wrote “The Rules” back in the day which I read SO many times. I finally actually learned to not just read, but implement them, which was a huge part of my success in dating.
You know I’m all about getting help and support in your dating journey to succeed with your goals.
Sherrie and I talked about:
63. Avoid the dreaded "What are we?" talk
Ooof! The dreaded “what are we?” talk.
How many of those have you had?
If you’re anything like me, way too many and none of them has ever gone the way you’d hoped.
Because the truth I always knew in my heart was that if a man was crazy about me, I wouldn’t have to have such talks.
So, how would you like to never have another “What are we?” talk for the rest of your life?? Are you in?
Building ef
62. Are dating skills really that important?
In our culture, we grow up thinking that love should just happen to us and that something has gone terribly wrong if it doesn’t.
I think this is absolute mind poison and has done more to ruin women’s love lives than almost anything else.
There is so much you can do to help yourself find a great guy and build the lasting connection you really want.
One of the most important of these things is to w
61. How to make finding a good guy easier
I remember being single for decades, enduring so many disappointments and wondering what on earth I was doing wrong.
I read all the self-help books, got makeovers, took classes and workshops and worked with several coaches to figure out how to find a good guy.
It was a long, arduous, and often excruciating process.
I learned everything the hard way, but I did learn.
Now I use all the things I lear
12. Why chasing men is a bad idea
So you finally had a first date with that guy you’ve been into for a while
And it went really well...
So you leave feeling all giddy and you can’t wait to see him again.
And now you’re waiting for his call.
And waiting
Aaaaandd still waiting
Should you text to tell him you had a good time or thank him?
What about that meme you saw about the Bears? Should you send it to him? He said he loved the Be
60. Why you need a man plan
You know I’m all about setting yourself up for success in dating.
I want you to have the life you really want instead of waiting for it to just happen to you.
So today, I’m going to tell you why you need to make a man plan to help you find a great guy.
You can still be your beautiful feminine self and let men make the first move.
You don’t have to chase men or do anything ridiculously embarrassing
59. How do I know where to start with dating?
You may not know where to start with dating.
You may hope that you’ll just meet someone you like and he’ll like you and things will just fall into place.
I spent years feeling the exact same way and honestly, it would have been nice.
Besides, it’s what all the movies and books tell us is supposed to happen, so what’s wrong with that?
Well, let’s start with the fact that you’ve wanted this for a wh
14. How to reach your goal when it seems impossible with Corrine Crabtree
Today I'm interviewing the fabulous Corrine Crabtree.
She knows a thing or two about reaching big goals and getting things done.
She's the CEO and founder of the No BS Weightloss Program and No BS Business Women.
She lost over 100 pounds, met and married a wonderful man and created 2 very successful businesses.
We chat about how to reach your dreams and have your own back even when it's
58. It's not just you, it really is hard to find a good guy
It’s not your imagination. It really is hard to find a good guy in today’s dating climate.
But there’s plenty you can do to help yourself find the good guys that are out there looking for you.
Here are some reasons it’s so hard to find a relationship-ready man:
There aren’t as many of them “on the market” at any given time. Once they get in relationships, they tend to stay in them.
This le
57. How do you know if you're ready to date?
How do you know for sure you’re ready to date?
I think that being ready is very subjective.
We do lots of things in life we don’t necessarily feel ready for, just because we want the results or the experience of doing them.
We don’t wait until we’re ready to brush our teeth, go to the doctor to get a checkup, or enroll in grad school.
You may not feel ready to date, but that doesn’t mean you aren
56. Should you refuse to date men with kids with Kristin Lindell
Today, I'm interviewing my friend and colleague Kristin Lindell about dating men with kids.
If you insist on only dating men without children after 40, you're seriously shrinking your dating pool, but is it worth the hassle to date guys with kids?
Kristin shares all the intel on dating men with kids in this interview.
We answer these burning questions:
Should you date guys with kids?
55. How important is it to have chemistry in early dating?
Chemistry is so overrated.
It’s a necessary part of a romantic relationship, but letting it drive your entire dating life is like letting a 3 year old get behind the wheel of your car and take you to the store.
It’s a terrible idea and you’re not likely to get where you want to go.
I’d like to suggest that you prioritize other qualities and let the chemistry grow over time. There needs to be some,
54. Date men who are excited about you
If a man isn’t excited about you, nothing else matters.
Not how tall, rich, handsome or funny he is.
Not how much you have in common or his background.
Not how much you like him or how great you think your connection is.
If he’s not excited about you, you’ve got nothing.
You need to pack up your toys and go home.
He’s not going to come around no matter what you do.
Men know if they are excited abo
53. Are you great at weeding men out?
I talk to so many women who tell me they’re doing fine with dating, thank you very much!
They’re champs at getting rid of losers, flakes, players and all the awful men out there.
And that’s a great skill to have.
But they’re still single and they have been at this for years.
If that’s the result you want, you can skip this episode, but if you want to actually find a wonderful man to share your lif
52. Why the perfect relationship is not going to happen to you
When I was single I spent so much time wishing, waiting and hoping to meet the right guy.
I thought that once I met him everything would be fantastic and I would finally have the love I wanted.
It took many years, false starts and heartbreaks for me to learn that this was never going to happen.
Not for the reasons I used to think, like I wasn’t young or beautiful enough, something was wrong with m
51. How coaching helped Julie find a great guy
Julie started working with me straight after a 24 year marriage. She didn't have a clue about dating and wasn't even sure if she wanted to. She didn't trust the dating apps and had heard horror stories from her friends about online dating.
I helped her with the dating process once she decided she was ready and encouraged her, as I do with so many of my clients, to give things time to develop with
50. Do you think dating is too much work?
Women often tell me that my method of dating sounds like a lot of work.
And it is!
I’m always just a little surprised that this is a problem.
We do other things that are a lot of work all the time because we want the results, such as:
Excelling in our careers
Taking care of our health and fitness
Raising children
Maintaining our homes and possessions
Running marathons, climbing mountains, etc
We
49. Would you like a male perspective on dating?
Today, I’m interviewing The Hubbs!
We matched on Tinder 7 years ago and married 5 months later.
I’m asking him the questions my listeners submitted via email a few weeks back including:
Why were you looking for a woman?
Did you intend to find a wife? or just "see how it goes" ?
How did you recognize that I was the one you were looking for?
What was your dating experience like?
Did you hope to me
48. Would you like to start a tab?
I used to over-give in relationships and then wonder why my needs were never met.
I felt so frustrated and confused by dating because I thought that I was doing everything right.
Being patient and understanding
Giving him space
Not expecting anything
Can you relate?
Then he’d move on and I’d be left feeling hurt, angry and jaded.
Slowly and with much help, I began to see why.
I was running a ta
47. Why taking a break from dating doesn't help
Are you taking a break from dating right now?
I used to get discouraged with dating and take lots of breaks.
I just couldn’t handle the continual disappointment and revolving door of men in my life.
It was all so exhausting.
But after my break was over, I’d go back to dating and all the same things would happen again.
Nothing had changed but the date on the calendar
This happens because the passa
46. Did he marry the woman he dated after you?
A few years ago, I postponed breaking up with a guy I was dating.
I knew that I wanted to get married and suddenly he said he didn’t.
He thought he might change his mind in the future so I tried to be patient.
I had what felt like very good reasons at the time.
I was in my 40s, it was the best relationship I’d had in years, I didn’t want to start all over again, maybe I wouldn’t find anyone as go
45. Men are "as is" merchandise
Is there a guy you’re interested in who’s perfect for you and you just know you’d be great together?You may be crushing on him from afar or you may have even gone out with him a few times. Maybe he’s even your boyfriend.
BUT, there are some things you wish were different.
He won’t commit to you
He puts his job, kids, ex, pet lobster before you
He never has time for you
He smokes, parties, gambles
44. Doing this 1 thing will help you find a quality man
I’ve been working on creating a digital course to help you date and I’ll be talking about it a lot more in the coming weeks, but for now I want to talk about something I’ve been learning from the women I’ve been talking to.
If you’re anything like them, or me when I was single, you’ve tried a lot of things to find a good man:
Dating sites and apps
Matchmaking
Visualizing
Meditation
Therapy
Prayer
43. Do men only want sex?
I used to get so discouraged when it seemed to me like all men wanted was sex, and it’s true that some men do.
Men have a very strong desire for sex that most women do not share to the same extent, so it’s difficult for us to understand at times.
They think about sex to the point of distraction and a recent study cited that 51% of men would like to have sex at least daily compared to 7% of women
42. How to find out if he's seeing other women
How soon should you be exclusive with a man and how on earth do you find out if he’s actually seeing other women?
We ladies tie ourselves in knots over this because we want to be feminine and date men who pursue us and at the same time, if you really like him you want to know where you stand.
I think the best way to get this to happen is for it to be the man’s idea. Men are like cats and tend to d
41. Are you part of his texting harem?
Some guys go on dating sites and apps and message all the women and just see who will respond to them. Then they send messages on and on. Maybe you even exchange numbers hoping for a real connection, but all he does is text.
And text and text and text.
Maybe he checks in every few days, every day or even a few times a day.
Or maybe he does that maddening thing where just when you get used to heari
40. Do you feel like you shouldn't want a man?
I was having a conversation with a friend the other day, and was sharing the story of how I made a promise to myself, when I was single, that I would do whatever it took to find the love of my life.
She said “I thought you were going to say how you decided you loved yourself and it was OK if you never found love.” I found that to be really interesting because we hear that message so often.
Ther
39. Do you hope you’ll find love without having to date?
Do you hope you’ll find love without having to date? I used to and I totally get it.
Dating can be a lot of work, especially when you find it overwhelming and don’t enjoy it.
But if you really want to find someone to share your life with, dating is the best, fastest, easiest way to find him.
Dating is simply a skill that you can learn, just like any other skill. Learning this skill actually pre
38. Are you following this bad dating advice?
Today I’m going to talk about the worst dating advice I hear all the time. I bet you’re hearing it too, even from well-meaning friends who just want to help you.
But I’m here to give it to you straight and this stuff just doesn’t work and I want you to stop believing this stuff immediately.
Stop looking/It’ll happen when you least expect it
Ugh. This is the best way to make finding a great guy to
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