Midlife Unfiltered
Midlife Unfiltered is hosted by Dr. Heather England and focuses on the real truths about intimacy, love, and relationships during midlife. Each episode explores topics relevant to people navigating this stage of life, aiming to help listeners build more meaningful connections and a more fulfilling life. The show blends educational and informational content with practical guidance for enhancing relationships and sexual intimacy. It is intended for personal enrichment and is not a substitute for therapy or medical advice.
Episodes
The Midlife Loneliness Women Rarely Talk About
Summary:In this episode, Dr. Heather England explores the profound loneliness many women experience in midlife, despite outward success and stability. She shares personal stories, research-backed insights, and practical strategies to foster deeper connections with ourselves, our marriages, and our friendships.Key topics:The subtle signs of loneliness despite having a seemingly perfect lifeThe impo
The Shocking Origin of Women’s Perfectionism (It’s Not What You Think)
Summary:Discover how perfectionism is more than a personality trait—it's a survival strategy rooted in childhood that can hold women back in midlife. Heather England explores how letting go of the need for perfection opens space for authenticity, rest, and genuine self-trust.Main Topics:The origins of perfectionism as a survival tool rooted in childhood experiencesHow societal and social media pre
Why Women Are Running on Empty and How Saying No Can Change Everything
Summary:Are you exhausted from carrying the invisible burdens of household and emotional labor without recognition? In this episode, Heather England dives deep into the societal expectations placed on women, the true cost of mental load, and practical steps to reclaim your agency and voice.Key Topics:The origins of the mental load and how it’s patterned from childhood experiencesThe list of invisi
The Midlife Question That Could Change How You Live Your Remaining Years
Summary:Are you feeling a sense of unrest despite your seemingly "successful" life? Heather England explores how midlife is a pivotal time for women to reconnect with themselves, challenge societal expectations, and make meaningful changes without the need for crisis or upheaval.In this episode:How common midlife feelings of dissatisfaction are rooted in a natural psychological stage, not failureT
Introducing Midlife Unfiltered
Connect with Dr. Heather England:WebsiteLinkedInSubstack (A Midlife Reckoning)WorkshopsResource PageSubmit a Podcast Topic
The Great Sex Podcast is Becoming Midlife Unfiltered
Introducing Midlife Unfiltered In this episode, Dr. Heather England shares the vision behind the relaunch of her podcast, now called Midlife Unfiltered. She discusses the importance of honest conversations about midlife women’s experiences, especially around relationships, identity, and purpose, aiming to create a supportive space for those navigating this complex life stage.Connect with Dr. Heath
39: Erectile Dysfunction Series: The Hidden Triggers that Cause Your Erectile Dysfunction to Keep on a Keep'in On
Summary:In this episode of The Great Sex Podcast, Dr. Heather England dives into the often-overlooked emotional and relational roots of erectile dysfunction (ED). Discover how stress, relationship dynamics, shame, and performance anxiety contribute to ED—and learn actionable insights to break the cycle and improve your sexual confidence.Resources & Links:Workshop on Mastering Performance Anxie
38. Erectile Dysfunction Series: The Many Medical Causes for Erectile Dysfunction
Summary:In this episode of the Great Sex Podcast, Dr. Heather England explores the complex causes of erectile dysfunction (ED), emphasizing that it’s a medical condition with physical and psychological roots. She aims to dispel myths and empower men and their partners with knowledge and actionable steps to address ED effectively.Resources & Links:Workshop on Mastering Performance AnxietyWorksh
37. Erectile Dysfunction Series: When the Little Blue Pill Doesn't Work; Reigniting Intimacy with Erectile Dysfunction
Summary:In this episode, Dr. Heather England explores the nuanced nature of erectile dysfunction (ED), emphasizing that medications like Viagra are helpful but not foolproof solutions. She discusses the impact of performance anxiety, relationship dynamics, and lifestyle factors, offering practical guidance to improve intimacy and emotional connection.Resources & Links:Workshop on Mastering Per
36. Erectile Dysfunction Series: The Biggest Contributor to Erectile Dysfunction
Summary:In this episode of the Great Sex Podcast, Dr. Heather England explains the often-misunderstood phenomenon of performance anxiety erectile dysfunction (ED). She shares practical insights, physiological explanations, and actionable strategies to help men rebuild confidence and trust in their bodies for healthier intimacy.Resources & Links:Workshop on Mastering Performance AnxietyWorkshop
35. Erectile Dysfunction Series - How ED Poisons Relationships and What to Do About It
Summary:Discover how erectile dysfunction affects relationships beyond the bedroom, and learn practical strategies to foster intimacy, communication, and emotional connection during this challenging time. Hosted by Dr. Heather England, a certified sex therapist, this episode offers candid insights from someone living with ED and shares resources to support couples.Resources & Links:Workshop on
34. Erectile Dysfunction Series - Why Trying Hard Makes Your ED Worse and What to Do Instead
Summary:Discover how psychological and societal factors intertwine with physical health to shape men's experiences with ED, and learn practical strategies to redefine success and foster genuine connection.Resources & Links:Workshop on Mastering Performance AnxietyWorkshop for Female Partners of Men with EDConnect with Dr. Heather England:WebsiteLinkedInSubstack (A Midlife Reckoning)WorkshopsRe
33. Avoiding Masturbation Mistakes
SummaryIn this episode, Dr. Heather England discusses male masturbation and the importance of using the right technique. She advises using lube, a lighter touch, and a slower motion during masturbation to create neural pathways that mimic partnered sex. She acknowledges that her opinion may be controversial but encourages listeners to consider the information and apply it to their own lives.Takeaw
32. Creating Ways to Get in the Mood for Sex
SummaryIn this episode, Dr. Heather England discusses the process of transitioning from a non-sexual state to a sexual one. She emphasizes the importance of consent and empowerment in one's sexuality. Dr. England provides practical tips and activities to help individuals get in the mood for sex, such as engaging in activities that create closeness with their partner, thinking about past fulfilling
31. Signs of an Unhappy Relationship
Summary:Join Dr. England as she highlights common signs you are in an unhappy relationship. Connect with Dr. Heather England:WebsiteLinkedInSubstack (A Midlife Reckoning)WorkshopsResource PageSubmit a Podcast TopicReady to spice up your sex life? Get my guide “69 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life”🔥 Learn How to use Sex Toys to Enhance your Pleasure. Toy Talk Sex Toy Course available at www.lovefilled
30: What Happens in Therapy and Sex Therapy?
SummaryIn this episode, Dr. Heather England interviews Beverly Rouse, a licensed clinical professional counselor and executive coach, about therapy and sex therapy. Beverly shares her journey from the military to becoming a therapist and explains the role of therapy in helping individuals navigate challenges and improve their relationships. She also discusses the misconceptions about sex therapy a
29. Redefining Sex: Moving Beyond Intercourse for Deeper Intimacy
SummaryIn this episode, Dr. Heather England discusses the importance of talking about sex and challenges the societal norms around intercourse. She emphasizes the need for open communication and negotiation in sexual relationships. Dr. England also highlights the unrealistic expectations set by Hollywood and the pressure it puts on both men and women. She encourages listeners to explore other plea
28. Is it OK if I Don't Want to Have Intercourse Anymore
SummaryIn this episode, Dr. Heather England addresses a listener's question about not wanting to have intercourse with their partner. She emphasizes the importance of consent and the negative effects of having sex when not desired. Dr. England explores various reasons for not wanting intercourse, including lack of enjoyment, past traumas, societal influences, and unmet needs. She encourages open c
27. A Special Announcement and a Fabulous Valentine's Day
In this episode, Heather shares an announcement about rebranding the podcast and then provides a tip for Valentine's Day.The tip focuses on making your partner feel valued and cherished.TakeawaysThe podcast is being rebranded to cover a broader range of topics beyond just sex.Valentine's Day is an opportunity to make your partner feel valued and cherished.There are many simple and thoughtful ways
26. Beyond the Baby Blues: Postpartum Anxiety and Depression
SummaryIn this episode, Dr. Heather England and Michelle Tangeman discuss postpartum anxiety and depression. They explore the typical responses and challenges that new parents face after having a baby, including hormonal changes and the impact on relationships. They differentiate between baby blues and postpartum depression, emphasizing the importance of seeking help if symptoms persist beyond two
25: When Your Partner Does Things That Annoy You
SummaryIn this episode, Dr. Heather discusses the difference between deal breakers and non-deal breakers in relationships. Deal breakers are actions or behaviors that breach core values and create irreparable cracks in the relationship, while non-deal breakers are annoyances that do not warrant ending the relationship. Dr. Heather provides examples of both deal breakers and non-deal breakers, such
24. How Medications Can Affect Your Sexual Desire, Arousal, and Ability to Orgasm
SummaryThis episode explores the impact of medications on sexual functioning. Listen as we explore various categories of medications, including antihistamines, antidepressants, anti-anxiety medications, and others that can affect sexual desire, arousal, and orgasm.The episode emphasizes the importance of open communication with healthcare providers and offers suggestions for managing medication-re
23. How Body Image Impacts Our Self-Esteem, Sexual Confidence and Sexual Self-Expression
SummaryIn this episode, Dr. Heather England discusses body image and its impact on self-esteem and sexual expression with Cassie Willnauer, a licensed therapist specializing in body image and sexuality. They explore the Health at Every Size movement, challenging negative body image thoughts, and the importance of body acceptance in relationships. They also discuss the need for individualized appro
22. Relationships are the Secret to Happiness and a Good Life
Summary:Is happiness the key to a good life? What if the key to a good life is really something else? Let’s explore what matters for your long-term happiness and health.Connect with Dr. Heather England:WebsiteLinkedInSubstack (A Midlife Reckoning)WorkshopsLove Filled Life Resource PageClick Here To Submit a Podcast TopicReady to spice up your sex life? Get my guide “69 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Li
21. Start the new year with intention: choose a word of the year
Summary:In this episode, Heather discusses setting intentions for the new year instead of traditional resolutions. She shares her experience of choosing a word as an intention and how it has positively impacted her life. Heather emphasizes the importance of being present and focusing on relationships. She encourages listeners to choose their own word of the year and explains how it can bring about
20: 3 Easy Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship with Your Partner
I am taking a brief break over the holidays so today's podcast is a replay of one of our most popular episodes. Strengthening your relationship with your partner is important even if your relationship is going well and there are easy things you can intentionally do to create a fabulous relationship.***Ready to spice up your sex life? Get my FREE guide “69 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life” by going t
19: One of the Best Ways to Make Difficult Decisions
Summary:We are all looking for ways to manage our stress levels and to make important decisions in our lives. I want to share one of my favorite ways to make decisions while managing my stress and negative thoughts, and I think it's one of the best ways.Connect with Dr. Heather England:WebsiteLinkedInSubstack (A Midlife Reckoning)WorkshopsLove Filled Life Resource PageClick Here To Submit a Podcas
18: 3 Easy Ways to Make Sex More Fun
Today, we share 3 easy ways to make your sex life more fun, and who wouldn't want to make sex more enjoyable?***Want to know more about sex toys and how to use them to enhance your fun and sexual pleasure? Check out my new course: Toy Talk at https://www.lovefilledlife.com/toytalk***If you'd like to learn more about specific techniques to get turned on, I encourage you to visit a research-focused
17: Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce's Relationship: Will it Last? Why I Think They'll Remain a Couple
Summary:On today's episode, Cooper and I talk about Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce's relationship and whether or not we think they will stay together. We think Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce have what it takes to remain a couple in a long-term, committed relationship. Plus, we are basing our opinion on the attributes of healthy couples that they both demonstrate.You won't want to miss this!Connect w
16: Real Life Love and Sex in a Long Term Relationship
Summary:Sometimes, the once vibrant and exciting connection in a long-term relationship fades or dwindles due to a multitude of reasons. Couples find themselves confined to the boundaries of routine and predictability as they deal with the challenge of maintaining love and a healthy sex life in a long-term relationship.In today's episode, I delve into a topic that intrigues many of my clients – th
15: 5 Tips to Reduce Stress During the Holidays
Summary:It's the holidays! On top of everything else on your to-do list, there's shopping, cooking, cleaning, decorating the house, spending money, and being extra nice to Aunt Ethel at your family get-together. You guessed it, it’s holiday time! It’s the start of the holiday season and for many people, that means family gatherings, lots of demands, social comparison, and high stress. Today, I w
14: Being a Highly Sensitive Person Can Make Sex More Difficult
Summary:High sensitivity shapes the emotional experiences, perceptions, and interactions of approximately 20% of the population, spanning across diverse cultures globally.From intimacy to communication, the deeply felt emotions and heightened responses to sensory inputs influence how highly sensitive individuals engage with their partners. This trait often leads to a preference for deep, meaningfu
13: Sex is More Than Intercourse
Summary: Great sex encompasses a wide spectrum of elements or factors that go beyond the physical act of intercourse itself. It is a holistic experience that incorporates emotional intimacy, effective communication, variety, mutual satisfaction, foreplay, and more. And while our modern world has evolved significantly in terms of openness and acceptance, the topic of sex remains elusive, shrouded i
12: When Men with ED Avoid Physical and Sexual Intimacy
Summary:The prevalence of erectile dysfunction (ED) tends to increase with age, underscoring its status as a common issue faced by many individuals and couples. And by the year 2025, it is projected that a staggering 325 million people worldwide will be struggling with erectile dysfunction. The problem, however, is that this is still a matter many people tend to avoid discussing openly despite ED
11: Real Life Love and Sex Tips from Author Laurel McHargue
Summary:Strengthening a relationship and maintaining a vibrant and fulfilling sex life are crucial aspects of a healthy and enduring partnership. Couples often face various challenges, whether they stem from the demands of everyday life, the passage of time, or personal growth. Despite these obstacles, it is entirely possible to keep the spark alive and deepen the bond with your partner.Our remark
10: How to Have Better Sex in Midlife
Summary:Understanding how sex evolves with age is vital especially in proactively maintaining sexual health for a fulfilling sex life well into late adulthood. We experience not only physiological changes that naturally occur but also the evolving mental, emotional, and relational aspects that shape our sexual experiences.The changes manifest diversely, encompassing shifts in hormones, alterations
09: How Often Do People Have Sex?
Summary:People want to know about sex but they are a bit afraid to talk about it. Conversations around sex and its frequency tend to carry a societal taboo, but it's a topic people genuinely want to explore.And one of the things people often ask me is how many times couples have sex. As individuals progress through different stages of life, their frequency of sex varies greatly for a wide variety
08: Exploring Menopause: Navigating Medical Implications and Body Changes with Sharon Depcinski, LMSW, CST (Part 2)
Summary:In this episode, we bring you Part 2 of my conversation with Sharon Depcinski, a licensed clinical social worker and certified sex therapist for over 25 years. In this conversation, we focus on some of the medical implications and body changes that women go through during menopause. We’ll also give you some additional resources that will be helpful to any woman going through menopause.Vagi
07: What No One Tells Us About Menopause with Sharon Depcinski, LMSW, CST (Part 1)
Summary:In the swirling tapestry of a woman's life, menopause emerges as a defining chapter, signaling the culmination of her fertile years, often in the late 40's or early 50's. But this phase is not just about the physical metamorphosis; it is an intimate dance with changing desires and sexual vitality, demanding both comprehension and metamorphosis.This isn't just a time of bodily changes—it's
06: How Come I'm Not Interested in Sex
Summary:Navigating the waves of intimacy in a relationship is a common journey we all embark on. It’s entirely usual to ride the ebbs and flows of passion, going through phases where the connection feels less intense, and other times when it’s exceptionally vibrant. However, it’s crucial to perk up your ears and pay attention when you realize that these once-frequent passionate encounters are beco
05: What Impacts Sexual Desire
Summary:Have you ever wondered why your "Va Va Voom" feels more like "Va Va... Meh"? You're not alone! I mean, it's no joke when your inner fire starts resembling a flickering birthday candle! Whether it's your crazy-busy life, your hormones having their own teen drama, or your relationship needing some extra spice, the struggle is so very real.Yes, Mars and Venus are different planets with differ
04: 3 Simple Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship
Summary:Cultivating your relationship with your partner is important even if your relationship is going well. There’s no harm in improving it, as people change, circumstances change, and relationships evolve. Remember that relationships thrive on connection and consistent effort.Strengthening your relationship doesn’t always require doing grand gestures or spending a lot of money. If you want to s
03: What Turns You On?
Summary:If you'd like to learn more about specific techniques to get turned on, I encourage you to visit a research-focused organization called OMGYES which focuses on presenting helpful information to enhance female sexual pleasure.Women don’t typically have spontaneous sexual thoughts, and compared to men, they don’t have frequent sexual thoughts. That is why it’s hard for some women to get them
02: Help Me Orgasm!
Summary:If you'd like to learn more about specific techniques to help you orgasm, I encourage you to visit a research-focused organization called OMGYES which focuses on presenting helpful information to enhance female sexual pleasure. When it comes to having great sex, sexual pleasure and connection are important. For many peope, reaching orgasm is highly important. However, orgasms for women are
01: Ingredients of Great Sex
Summary:Some people want to have great sex but they just don’t know how. And as a sex therapist, I frequently get asked how couples can improve their sex life. As such, it’s necessary to know that beyond communication and other factors, lies a journey of self-discovery and mutual exploration.If you want to learn more about great sex or if you wish to add spark in your sex life and achieve great se
Introducing the Great Sex Podcast
***Ready to spice up your sex life? Get my FREE guide “69 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life” by going to www.lovefilledlife.com/69ways.***Sex is one of the most important aspects in a relationship, which is why this is a topic that typically comes up when I talk to couples. Embracing the importance of great sex fosters deeper connection, elevating the relationship further and cultivating emotional in
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