Lights On with Carl Lentz
Lights On with Carl Lentz is a podcast where Carl Lentz shares his personal journey and invites others to do the same. The show focuses on vulnerability and open conversations to shed light on inner darkness. Each episode aims to bring transparency and healing through honest dialogue.
Episodes
The 10 Receipts of Repentance: How to Know If They’ve Really Changed
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comPre-order our book, Overcoming Infidelity, TODAY: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Overcoming-Infidelity/Carl-Lentz/9781668230497"How did you experience no guilt? Because you're a Jesus follower?" Last week a wife wrote in about a husband who uses grace to dodge accountability. This week she asks Carl the question directly,
"God Forgave Me, Why Can't You?" (The Theology That Dodges Accountability)
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comPre-order our book, Overcoming Infidelity, TODAY: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Overcoming-Infidelity/Carl-Lentz/9781668230497"He tells me he has no guilt, because there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus." A wife married over 30 years wrote in with a question we hear far more often than people realize:
Rage, Disclosure, and Raising Kids Through it All
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comEvery couple in recovery hits the same three walls at some point. The rage that won't quit. The suspicion that there's more to the story. And the impossible question of how to protect your kids from the fallout of a parent who isn't showing up. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura take on all three, pulled straight from t
Two questions every couple in recovery is asking (and the honest answers)
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comSome of the hardest questions in recovery aren't the big ones. They're the small, daily ones that couples get stuck on for years without ever asking out loud. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura take on two of them, both pulled straight from the mailbag, and get into the honest answers most couples never get.The first: w
Fighting, s*x, and privacy: what actually counts as normal
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com"Is this normal?" is one of the most asked questions in every marriage counselor's office. It's also one of the most dangerous ones, because "normal" and "healthy" aren't the same thing. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura tackle three real listener questions that get to the heart of what most couples are quietly wonderi
Four Myths about Betrayal We Need to Stop Believing
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comSome of the biggest misconceptions couples carry into betrayal recovery aren't just wrong. They're the reason people stay stuck for years. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura get honest about four of the most common myths they hear over and over from listeners, friends, and couples they've walked through this with. And e
Forgiveness, Triggers, Relapse, and Alcohol: Your Questions Answered
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comWe're home in Virginia Beach and back in the mailbag. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura take on four of the most common questions couples in recovery keep sending in. Not the surface-level questions. The ones people ask when they trust the answer is going to be honest.The first: is forgiveness the same as reconciliatio
The Three Listener Questions Every Betrayed Spouse Needs to Hear
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comCarl and Laura are back with a new season, a new studio, a new book, and one of the most tender openings this show has ever had. Before Carl and Laura get into the listener questions, Carl opens up about the sudden loss of his sister Rachel, what he's learned about carrying grief and honor at the same time, and the reminder her l
The marriage questions people are afraid to ask out loud
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comSince Lights On started, we've been asked a lot of questions. Some out loud. Some in private messages. Some in the middle of a conversation with couples we love. In this special episode, Carl and Laura pulled the eleven hardest, most common, most necessary marriage questions into one place.This episode is for the couple sitting a
How to actually change the climate of your home
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comThe Summer Shots series continues, and this week's shot is the simplest and hardest one yet. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura get into the third shot in the series: a 20-minute walk together, every day, for one week. And underneath it, the bigger conversation almost no couple is having on purpose. Who is actually sett
How to encourage your spouse in a way they actually feel
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comLast week Carl and Laura kicked off the Summer Shots series with the challenge to cut criticism for a full week. This week, they build on it with the second shot: intentional, specific, planned encouragement. Because taking something out only works if you put something better back in.In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura g
Why criticism is quietly killing your marriage (and what to try instead)
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comMost people have never been taught how to apologize. And the ones who have often learned to do it in a way that quietly protects themselves instead of repairing anything. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura get honest about what a real apology actually looks like, why it's the single most important skill in a healthy rel
The alarm clock every marriage eventually hears
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comMost marriages don't fall apart in a single moment. They quietly erode under the weight of what nobody's willing to say out loud. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura get honest about the one thing that changed everything for them, and could change everything for any couple willing to try it: radical honesty.Carl and Laur
How to come back to each other after years of drift
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comLast week Carl and Laura opened up the biggest question in marriage recovery: how do you stop being lonely in your marriage? This week, they pick up right where that left off with the follow-up question thousands of couples are quietly asking. How do we actually come back to each other?In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura
How to stop being lonely in your marriage
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comYou can be married and still lonely. In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura get honest about one of the most under-talked-about realities in relationships: sitting next to someone every night and still feeling completely alone. If that sounds familiar, this one is for you.Carl and Laura walk through three real listener ques
What Your Anger is Actually Trying to Tell You
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comA listener wrote in with a question almost every betrayed spouse eventually wrestles with: I have every right to be angry, but I can feel it turning me into someone I don't want to be. How do I let go of my anger without letting him off the hook? In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura take that question seriously and refram
The two decisions every couple has to make after betrayal
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comAfter last week's episode reframing the most asked question in betrayal recovery, Carl and Laura pick up exactly where they left off. In this episode of Lights On, they introduce what they call the two decision reality: the framework that quietly carried them out of the valley and into the marriage they have now.Most couples thin
Should I stay or should I leave? (You're asking the wrong question)
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comAfter betrayal, almost every couple lands on the same question: should I stay or should I leave? In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura make the case that this is the wrong question, and the rush to answer it is one of the most damaging moves a couple can make in the aftermath of infidelity.Drawing from their own season in
You Will Not Get Around to a Healthy Marriage "Someday" (Part 2 with the Metcalfs)
Charles and Abby Metcalf are back at the table, and this one goes deeper than part one. In this episode of Lights On, Carl, Laura, Charles, and Abby get into the parts of marriage that quietly erode underneath the busy life of raising kids: the conflicts that aren't actually about what they look like, the unspoken games we play hoping our spouse will read our minds, the way two exhausted
What Kids Actually Do to Your Marriage | Ft. Charles and Abby Metcalf
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comFor the first time on Lights On, Carl and Laura invited guests to the table: Charles and Abby Metcalf, dear friends, pastors, and parents of four little ones in the thick of the season most couples privately worry they won't survive. Together, the four of them get into the question hundreds of you have asked in different ways: wh
How do you rebuild intimacy after betrayal?
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com This is the number one question Carl and Laura get asked, so they finally gave it a whole episode. A listener wrote in asking how you rebuild intimacy when sex, touch, and closeness have all become wired to pain, pressure, and fear. Underneath it sat the question almost nobody says out loud: will we ever have sex again?In this e
How do you parent your kids when you feel disqualified?
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comWhen a parent emailed asking how to discipline their kids after blowing up the family, we knew this conversation needed its own episode. Their question went deeper than discipline though. It was about authority. How do you lead your kids when you feel completely disqualified? And how do you stabilize their nervous system when you
How Do You Know When FORGIVENESS Is REAL?
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comWhen a husband emailed asking why his wife still brings up his affair every week, three years after it happened, even though she says she has forgiven him, we knew this conversation was going to land for a lot of people. His question was simple and brave: am I allowed to ask for more? And underneath it sits the question nobody wa
Ambition or Family? You're asking the WRONG question | ft. Ruslan KD
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comThis episode explores the tension between "be the light of the world" and "live a quiet life" - and why both can coexist in the same calling. Carl sits down with Ruslan Alkhouri, the Armenian refugee turned seven-figure media entrepreneur, about faithfulness before platform, godly ambition versus worldly fame, and why implementat
How Do You Parent Kids Through Marriage Trauma?
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comWhen a mom of three teenage boys emailed us asking how to lead her family through the aftermath of her husband's betrayal, we knew this conversation needed its own episode. Her oldest son has gone cold. The anger is hardening. The whole family is weary. And she's wondering if the work she and her husband are doing will ever be en
50 Pills a Day. 15 Years Sober. Here's What Changed.
If you or someone you love is trapped in addiction and you've run out of answers, call Hope Is Alive at 1-844-3-HOPE-NOW or visit hopeisalive.netIn this honest and hope-filled episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz sits down with Lance Lang — pastor's kid turned 50-pill-a-day addict turned founder of Hope Is Alive — for a conversation that will change the way you see addiction forever. Lance br
Can Trust Be Rebuilt When Your Partner Keeps Letting You Down?
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comIn this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura answer three listener questions that keep circling the same uncomfortable truth: good intentions are not the same as real work. And the people you love can feel the difference.The first question comes from a couple on the other side of a hard season. They are doing well, on the same pa
Why Willpower Never Beats Addiction. And What Actually Does. | FT Blaine Bartell
If you're a man trapped in a cycle of pornography and shame, email us at hello@carlandlaura.comIn this raw and practical episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz brings back Blaine Bartell for a conversation built for the man who has tried everything and still can't break free. Blaine, founder of House of Resurrection and a man who lost everything to 23 years of sexual addiction, breaks down the
Should you tell your kids about your marriage problems?
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comIn this raw episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura dive into the difficult questions surrounding marital betrayal, emotional boundaries, and the road to healing. Should you tell your children about your marital struggles? Why do women cheat, and is the husband ever to blame? What actually defines an emotional affair, and how do you
Your Peace Was Never Stolen. You Traded It. | Ft Tim Ross
If you're searching for peace and don't know where to start, email us at hello@carlandlaura.comIn this episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz sits down with longtime friend and author Tim Ross for a conversation that redefines everything you thought you knew about peace. Tim, host of The Basement podcast and author of the new book The Missing Peace, breaks down why peace is not the absence of p
Your Husband Is Lying. Your Nervous System Knows It.
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comThree listener questions. All of them about what betrayal actually does to aperson. Not just to the marriage. To the voice inside that kept sayingsomething is wrong.A woman who spent years convincing herself she was the problem just found outher husband has a gambling addiction and has been lying to her for years. Carland Laura b
I Love My Husband But I Am Not Attracted To Him
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I Caught My Mom Cheating And Now I Am Afraid Of Marriage
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My Husband Looks At Women On Instagram. Is That Cheating?
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com—In this raw episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura tackle five questions most couples are too afraid to say out loud: Is watching pornographic Instagram accounts cheating? What do you do when your husband's porn addiction has shut down your sex life completely? How do you find a godly partner after everything you've been through?
We Answered Your Hardest Marriage Questions. Nothing Was Off Limits.
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comIn this raw episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura do something brand new: they open the inbox and answer real questions from real people navigating the hardest seasons of their marriages. No scripts. No filter. Just honest, experience-backed responses to the emails and DMs that have been flooding in for years.Drawing from 23 years
Stop Waiting For Your Spouse To Read Your Mind. They Can't.
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com—In this raw episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura tackle the question most couples never ask out loud: Do I even know what I need anymore? And have I actually told them? The answer will challenge everything you think you know about needs, resentment, and why so many marriages slowly drift apart.Drawing from 23 years of marriage a
I Lost Myself In My Marriage. Then I Made One Decision That Changed Everything.
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com-In this raw episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura tackle a question that arrived in their inbox and it's one millions of women are silently asking: What happened to me? The answer will challenge everything you think you know about marriage, identity, and what it really means to put others first.Drawing from 23 years of marriage a
My Husband Hasn't Touched Me in 12 Years – Here’s what to do
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comIn this raw episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura tackle a question most couples are too afraid to ask out loud: What do you do when your spouse hasn't initiated sex in over a decade? The answer will challenge everything you think you know about intimacy, desire, and what's really going on beneath the surface.Drawing from 23 years
Why Assuming You Know Your Partner Is Destroying Your Marriage
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comIn this raw episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura tackle the question every married couple avoids: What is my spouse not telling me—and what am I afraid to ask? The answer will challenge everything you think you know about knowing your partner.Drawing from 23 years of marriage and their own journey of rebuilding trust, Carl and La
3 Small Things That Will Make This Your Most Peaceful Year (Just Do 1)
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com---In this solo episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz challenges everything you think you know about New Year's resolutions and personal growth. The secret to a powerfully peaceful year is not doing more. It is doing less.Drawing from his own experience in rehab, Carl shares the moment a therapist told a room full of successful men on
Living a Lie for 23 Years: How a Pastor Lost His Wife, Kids, and Church in One Day
In this brutally honest episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz sits down with Blaine Bartell for round two of a conversation that sparked hundreds of messages from pastors in secret crisis. Blaine, a former megachurch pastor who led one of America's largest youth ministries, reveals the unspoken rule destroying leaders from the inside: "Thou shalt not get caught." For the first time, he shares
What Daughters Never Tell Their Dads | With My Daughter Ava
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comIn this raw episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz sits down with his 21-year-old daughter Ava for the conversation most dads are too afraid to have. What does my daughter actually need from me? The answer will challenge everything you think you know about strength, protection, and what it actually takes to lead your daughter well.Draw
Why I Had S3x With My Cheating Husband
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com---In this raw episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura Lentz tackle the conversation most couples recovering from betrayal are too afraid to have. What do we do about sex? The answer will challenge everything you think you know about protection, connection, and what it actually takes to rebuild.Drawing from five years of rebuilding
Why "Keeping The Peace" Actually Destroys Your Marriage
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.comIn this raw episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura Lentz tackle the question every couple secretly asks during the holidays: "Is this hard because we're healing—or hard because something is broken?" The answer will challenge everything you think you know about keeping the peace in your marriage.Drawing from five years of rebuilding
I went to death row and interviewed a prisoner
I visited Angola Prison, one of America's largest maximum security facilities, and what I witnessed broke me in the best way possible. This is Yogi. He's serving 65 years. He might be the freest man I've ever met.I went with my friend Jake Bodin from God Behind Bars to experience the first-ever daddy-daughter dance inside a maximum security prison. Men serving 40 years to life, some who h
What Nobody Tells You About Staying After Betrayal
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com!In this raw episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura Lentz tackle the question every couple secretly asks after betrayal: "Is this hard because we're healing—or hard because something is broken?" The answer will challenge everything you think you know about recovery.Drawing from five years of rebuilding their own marriage, Carl and
Can Couples Actually Survive Infidelity? (From Our 5 Years Of Healing)
Email us:hello@carlandlaura.comIn this urgent conversation, Carl and Laura Lentz tackle an email that made them immediately stop everything and record: a woman whose husband has had over 200+ sexual encounters with prostitutes, massage parlors, and emotional affairs—yet he's calling HER controlling for asking him to stop chatting with younger women at the gym. Drawing from their own five
Married for 23 years. If you want it to last, watch this
At 47 years old and 23 years into marriage, Carl and Laura Lentz drop the most uncomfortable truth about relationships: your marriage doesn't need more love, it needs more PROOF. After surviving public infidelity that should have ended everything (200+ affairs, strip clubs, massage parlors), they expose the lie you're living: that talking about your marriage mattering is the same as provi
We Never Fell Out of Love, We Stopped Liking Each Other - The Truth That Saved Our Marriage
In this honest conversation, Carl and Laura Lentz rip open the facade of "perfect marriages" to expose the unspoken epidemic: couples who love each other but can't stand being in the same room. Drawing from their own marriage reconstruction after losing everything publicly, they reveal why "liking" your spouse is actually harder—and more important—than loving them.Carl shares the moment f
Did I settle in my marriage?
Have you ever looked at your relationship or your spouse and quietly wondered, did I settle? Most people think settling means picking the wrong person, but it usually means somebody has stopped growing. In this episode of Lights On, we make the case that settling starts in the mirror, not your marriage.We explore what settling really means, how to avoid it, and how to reignite the spark i
Back In Church Space 5 Years After Everything Fell Apart
What happens when one of the most influential pastors in America falls from grace? And what does redemption look like on the other side of scandal?As lead pastor of Hillsong Church NYC, I preached to thousands every Sunday, counseled celebrities and athletes, and became the face of a new generation of church leadership. Then, in November 2020, everything came crashing down.I was fired fro
24-Year-Old Woman Built The Answer To Unplanned Pregnancy
Want to submit questions? Email us at hello@carlandlaura.com!In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura Lentz sit down with 24-year-old Phoebe Enterman, founder of Plana - the app that's quietly solving America's adoption crisis. Moving from Brisbane, Australia to Las Vegas with nothing but conviction, Phoebe reveals the shocking truth: while 2 million couples desperately wait to adopt,
My Husband's Mother Helped Him Cheat - Here's What I Did
When your husband's family enables his affair and makes you the villain, the betrayal cuts twice as deep. In this raw and essential episode, Carl and Laura Lentz tackle one of the most painful questions they've received: what do you do when your in-laws collude with the affair partner, feed them information, and blame you for the infidelity? Drawing from their own experience of distancing
Mental Obesity: Stop Filling Your Mind With Things You Don't Need
In this urgent wake-up call, Carl and Laura Lentz expose the silent epidemic destroying modern life: consumption addiction. Drawing from their own dramatic reconstruction after public crisis and counseling countless people stuck in endless scrolling, they reveal why being the last to know current events is actually a power move, how "mental obesity" is filling your mind with garbage you d
Why Most People Can’t Heal After Betrayal (And How To Change That)
In this crucial episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura Lentz provide a survival guide for women navigating the aftermath of betrayal. Drawing from their reconstruction journey and counseling hundreds of couples, they reveal the six essential steps every betrayed spouse needs to take immediately after discovering infidelity. Laura shares her own early choices - from refusing to weaponize sha
The Only Way to Win Back Your Wife After Breaking Her Trust
In this raw and essential episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz delivers the uncomfortable truths every man needs to hear after betraying his marriage. Drawing from his own journey through infidelity and the reconstruction of his marriage with Laura, Carl breaks down the exact roadmap that works - and exposes what doesn't. From why you should embrace lie detector tests to the power of having z
The One Sacrifice That Saved Our Marriage After Infidelity
In this brutally honest episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura Lentz expose the one factor sabotaging most couples' healing from infidelity: alcohol. Drawing from their own reconstruction journey and counseling countless couples through betrayal, they reveal why drinking delays recovery, blocks the exact brain functions needed to rebuild trust, and turns an already burning house into an inf
25-Year Divorce Lawyer: These 3 Things Destroy Every Marriage
In this brutally honest episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura Lentz sit down with James Sexton, one of America's most renowned divorce attorneys, for a conversation that could save your marriage. After 25 years representing high-profile divorces, James reveals the three guaranteed ways men destroy their marriages - and why 56% of all marriages end in his office. This isn't your typical rel
The Brutal Cost of Letting Everyone's Opinion Matter
In this powerful episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura Lentz expose the brutal reality of living under constant criticism and reveal the mental framework that saved their sanity. For the first time, they share why they almost didn't start this podcast – paralyzed by fear of opinions – and how one harsh comment from a stranger about their vacation nearly derailed their confidence. Laura ope
23 Years of Secret Addiction: A Pastor's Shocking Recovery Story
In this raw and unprecedented episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz sits down for an exclusive interview with Blaine Bartel, a former megachurch pastor who built one of America's largest youth ministries before losing everything due to a 23-year secret addiction. For the first time, Blaine opens up about the moment his double life was completely exposed, the "terrifying grace" that shattered h
Our Marriage Almost Failed Until We Accepted This Hard Truth
In this transformative episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura Lentz confront the uncomfortable truths that most people spend their entire lives avoiding. Together, they reveal the three hard truths that saved their marriage and transformed their lives: why you're 99% responsible for your problems (and solutions), why the relationship with yourself determines everything else, and why comfort
"Why I Didn't Leave My Cheating Husband" - Laura Lentz Opens Up
In this raw and unprecedented episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz sits down for an exclusive interview with his wife Laura – the woman who chose to stay when 99.9% of people said she should leave. For the first time, Laura opens up about the moment that made her stay, the day-by-day survival strategy that saved their marriage, and the brutal honesty required to rebuild after betrayal. They d
Why Your Kids Don’t Want to Spend Time With You (And How To Fix That)
In this deeply personal episode of Lights On, a father sits down with his wife Laura and daughter to reveal the unconventional family culture that has their kids choosing couch time over parties. They dive into the "corny" traditions that actually work, why confrontation leads to clarity, and how making awkward topics conversational changed everything. From discussing porn at the dinner t
I Spent 4.5 Years in Therapy - Here's What Actually Works
In this episode, Carl and Laura Lentz reveal what the growth phase of healing actually looks like after 4.5 years of intensive therapy work. Discover why growth includes failure, conflict, and moments of joy - and why most people quit before reaching this transformative stage. Carl shares his experience completing a rigorous 4.5-year therapy program and why consistency over convenience be
3 Things You Must Do To Heal After a Breakdown
In this episode, Carl and Laura Lentz reveal the 3-stage healing framework that saved their marriage after infidelity and public scandal. Discover why most people never truly heal from breakdown because they skip the discovery phase, try to heal while sprinting through life, and focus on cleaning up "leaves" instead of healing the root system. Carl shares his transformative experience at
This is Why You are Breaking Promises to Yourself
In this episode, executive coach Janet Breitenbach reveals the integrity framework that's transforming high performers and why most people unknowingly sabotage their success. Discover the shocking difference between moral integrity and workability integrity, and learn why doing what you say you're going to do by when you say you're going to do it is the secret to unlocking your potential.
This Is Why They Aren't Listening To You...
In this episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura Lentz dive deep into what it really means to listen. From miscommunication in marriage to growing through silence, they share personal stories about learning to hear each other—without judgment, defense, or distraction. If you’ve ever struggled to truly listen—or felt unheard—this one’s for you.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy an
Why 50% of Marriages Fail: The Performance Problem
In this revealing episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura Lentz tackle the hidden baggage that can make or break relationships. With divorce rates climbing above 50%, they share the critical questions you must ask before committing your life to someone.The couple dives into relationship templates and patterns, revealing how your upbringing shapes your expectations in love. They explore the d
Is It Possible To Get Over Church Hurt?
In this powerful episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz sits down with longtime friend Andrew Simila for a raw, vulnerable conversation about healing after church hurt. The two reflect on their years of ministry at Hillsong, the fallout that followed, and the emotional wreckage left behind.Andrew opens up about the personal cost of staying loyal, the silence that followed the scandal, and the h
Every couple should have THIS fight
Your experience is real—but is it the whole truth? In this episode of Lights On, Laura and I unpack how to honor what you've been through without letting it hijack your future. We talk about healing, empathy, church hurt, relationships, and why holding your experience with humility might be the most powerful thing you can do right now.This one's honest, unfiltered, and necessary. Let’s ke
God Chose Me - The Message That Transformed My Life with Charles Metcalf
Charles Metcalf joins Carl Lentz to talk about untouchable confidence, overcoming shame, and what it means to believe God chose you. This raw, hope-filled conversation will challenge your perspective on yourself and your purpose.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
You’re Not Lazy—You Just Need Purpose | Conversation With Cody Jefferson
In this episode, Cody Jefferson and I keep it real—talking about healing, mindset shifts, and what it actually takes to get unstuck. If you're tired of surface-level fixes and ready for real transformation, this one’s for you. We dive into inner work, truth, accountability, and living with purpose. No fluff. Just an honest conversation that’ll push you to take action today. Let’s go. #lig
“This Is Why ‘My Truth’ Is Ruining Your Life”
Your experience is real—but is it the whole truth? In this episode of Lights On, Laura and I unpack how to honor what you've been through without letting it hijack your future. We talk about healing, empathy, church hurt, relationships, and why holding your experience with humility might be the most powerful thing you can do right now.This one's honest, unfiltered, and necessary. Let’s ke
Church Hurt Is Real - Healing Is Too: Chris Durso Shares His Story
This convo right here is special. I sat down with my good friend Chris Durso — a real one — and we got into it. We talk about leadership, trauma, healing, therapy, church in New York, and what it actually means to get healthy. Chris opens up about his battle with PTSD, abuse, and what healing has looked like for him. This one’s honest, raw, and filled with hope.If you're trying to figure
If You're Brave Enough To Complain, You're Brave Enough To Change
What if your biggest complaint is actually a clue to your biggest breakthrough? In this episode, we explore how to turn frustration into transformation using the power of self-awareness, honesty, and the “Three C’s” — Clear, Conscious, Committed. Whether it’s in your relationships, career, or personal growth, this conversation will challenge and empower you to see your complaints in a who
Embracing imperfections, a heart to heart with Carl's Daughters
In this episode, we dive into real talk on faith, identity, alcohol, and finding balance in your 20s. Unscripted, heartfelt, and full of moments that might just shift your perspective.We explore parenting, purpose, and the question that keeps coming up:“What else might be true?”Perfect for anyone navigating life, growing in faith, or figuring it all out one step at a time.See Privacy Poli
A New Era in Biblical Storytelling with Jon Erwin | House Of David
"What if Hollywood's breakthroughs could be in spiritual storytelling?" Carl Lentz sits down with filmmaker John Irwin to talk about his new project House of David, the miracles behind its creation, and how faith and filmmaking collide in powerful ways.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Carl & Laura Answer Your Toughest Questions: Abuse, Value, & More
Go to https://meetfabric.com/LIGHTSON and apply today, risk-free.Carl and Laura dive deep into your questions! They discuss the joys and challenges of getting older, their parenting philosophies (including a debate on spanking!), and how to rebuild a marriage when it's tough. They also address a common issue: balancing church with kids' activities and dealing with church-related guilt. Pl
Jay Williams: From NBA Stardom to Redemption
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