Beauty in Battle Podcast
Beauty in Battle is a high-energy conversation for married couples to help energize their relationship, give them purpose, and draw them close to their spouse by turning tension into energy. Jason and Tori Benham share stories of their relationship and practical ways to turn conflict and quarrels into passion and purpose by leaning into struggles rather than avoiding them. They emphasize that fighting together draws couples together, encouraging partners to fight alongside each other in a spiritual war rather than against each other. The podcast offers insights on combating negative thinking, magnetizing to your spouse, and winning back love.
Episodes
Overcoming Anger In Marriage
Send us Fan MailAnger isn’t the problem—it’s a signal pointing to something deeper. In this episode, we uncover four root causes of anger in marriage and share practical, biblical ways to address them. Enjoy!
Three Rules For Relationships
Send us Fan MailHealthy relationships are built on the right rules. In this episode, we unpack three powerful principles that can transform your marriage. When couples stop fighting for position and start fighting for connection, everything changes. Enjoy.
Using The Johari Window In Marriage
Send us Fan MailMarriage isn’t just about happiness; it’s about transformation. In this episode, we use the Johari Window to show how your relationship reveals blind spots, uncovers hidden struggles, and deepens intimacy. You're gonna love this one!
Getting To The Heart Of Your Man
Send us Fan MailLadies - how do you truly get to the heart of your man? In this episode, we unpack a powerful example from Abigail’s interaction with David in 1 Samuel 25 and reveal five simple but impactful ways to speak to your man’s heart. Enjoy.
Getting To The Root Of Anxiety
Send us Fan MailAnxiety in marriage doesn’t just show up—it has roots. In this episode, we walk through a simple four-step framework to help you identify what’s really driving anxiety. When you get to the root, you can respond with clarity, support your spouse better, and move toward lasting peace together.
Anxiety's Three Damaging Effects
Send us Fan MailIn this episode, we unpack the three damaging effects of anxiety and how it quietly takes control. Understanding these patterns is the first step to breaking anxiety’s grip and learning how to respond with clarity, courage, and faith.This episode is based on our newely released book: Unshakeable: A Proven Plan To Crush Anxiety, Defeat Overwhelm, And Conquer The Fears That Freak You
Dealing With Anxiety In Marriage
Send us Fan MailAnxiety doesn’t just affect individuals—it impacts marriages. In this episode, based on our new book Unshakeable, we talk about how to deal with anxiety together as a couple and the three-step process to set you free. Peace in marriage is possible—and it starts with becoming unshakeable together.Grab a copy of UNSHAKEABLE: A Proven Plan To Crush Anxiety, Defeat Overwhelm, And Conqu
The Power Of The Pivot
Send us Fan MailHow you respond to pain determines whether you stay stuck or step into strength. In this episode, we explore two keys that help couples process emotions and drawing closer together at the same time.
Lessons From 25 Years Together (p2)
Send us Fan MailIn Part 2 of our anniversary series, it’s my (Jason's) turn. In this episode, I'm sharing five lessons I've learned that have shaped my marriage and helped us grow stronger through every season. Enjoy.
Lessons From 25 Years Together (p1)
Send us Fan MailToday we celebrate 25 years of marriage (please, hold your applause!). In this episode, Tori shares five lessons she’s learned along the way. In the next episode, I’ll share my five from our two and a half decades together. Enjoy.
Dodging Relational Drift
Send us Fan MailBusyness doesn’t kill intimacy—drifting does. In this episode, we unpack how small, unguarded moments lead to danger in marriage. You’ll learn the four-stage drift progression and simple ways to close the gap. Drift isn’t failure; it’s feedback. Enjoy.
Why You Keep Having The Same Argument
Send us Fan MailMost couples think they’re fighting about dishes or tone—but they’re actually fighting a pattern. In this episode, we unpack the 4-part cycle that keeps conflicts on repeat and show you how to break it. This one will totally reshape how you handle recurring arguments.
The Gratitude Reset
Send us Fan MailGratitude is one of the most powerful tools for emotional and relational health. In this special Thanksgiving episode, we explore how gratitude rewires your mind, draws you closer to your spouse, and keeps negativity from taking over your marriage.
Breaking Generational Trauma
Send us Fan MailEmotional pain doesn’t end with us—it echoes through generations. In this episode, we unpack Reuben’s story to show how family trauma repeats and three keys that can break the cycle. Enjoy!Oh, and it's that time again - our Beauty In Battle Marriage Retreat in July of 2026. Click HERE for more info. Come hang with us!
Four Steps To Calm The Chaos
Send us Fan MailWhen life feels chaotic, it’s easy to get stuck in your head instead of staying connected to your spouse. In this episode, we share four simple steps to calm the chaos. Each one helps you reset your mind, release stress, and reconnect emotionally. Enjoy.
The Ten Laws of Boundaries in Marriage (p2)
Send us Fan MailHealthy marriages thrive on healthy boundaries. In this episode, we dive into Part 2 of The Ten Laws of Boundaries in Marriage, based on Dr. Henry Cloud’s classic book. We’ll walk through the first five laws and show how clear, godly boundaries protect your relationship, build trust, and deepen connection. Enjoy
The Ten Laws of Boundaries in Marriage (p1)
Send us Fan MailHealthy marriages thrive on healthy boundaries. In this episode, we dive into Part 1 of The Ten Laws of Boundaries in Marriage, based on Dr. Henry Cloud’s classic book. We’ll walk through the first five laws and show how clear, godly boundaries protect your relationship, build trust, and deepen connection. Enjoy
Fighting Together
Send us Fan MailCharlie Kirk’s assassination shook the nation—and reminded us that we’re in a spiritual fight. In this episode, we explore how couples can grow stronger by fighting together by knowing the three battles we all face and how to achieve victory in each. Let's do this!
Labeling Emotions
Send us Fan MailOne of the deepest ways to connect with your spouse is by tuning in to what you’re both feeling. In this episode, we talk about the power of labeling emotions and how recognizing what’s going on in your body can help you identify and express what’s going on in your heart. Enjoy
The Power of Presence
Send us Fan MailYour presence is the greatest gift you can give. In this episode, we talk about the power of being fully present in your marriage—what’s stealing it, how to protect it, and how to get it back. This one’s a wake-up call to stop drifting and start showing up. Enjoy!
Getting Back To Your Roots
Send us Fan MailWhen marriage feels stuck or stale, sometimes the best way forward is to go back—back to your roots. In this episode, we draw from the book of Hebrews to break down five things you likely did when you first fell in love—and how doing them again can breathe new life into your relationship. Enjoy.
How To Stir Up Your Spouse
Send us Fan MailMarriage is about more than just living together—it’s about motivating each other to become all God created you to be. In this episode, we dive into Hebrews 10:24 and share three keys to stirring up your spouse to love and good works. EnjoyAsk ChatGPT
Breaking Down Gratitude
Send us Fan MailGratitude isn’t just polite—it’s powerful. In this episode, we break down what gratitude really is and how it can transform your marriage from the inside out. You’ll learn the difference between gratitude, thankfulness, and thanksgiving, and walk through four simple steps to grow in everyday appreciation for your spouse. Enjoy
Two Staples Of A Strong Marriage
Send us Fan MailEvery strong marriage is built on two key pillars: Devotion and Discipline. In this episode, we explore two ways to demonstrate loyalty and two ways to utilize discipline so your marriage becomes stronger, sweeter, and more secure. Enjoy. Ask ChatGPT
Good Conflict vs Bad Conflict
Send us Fan MailNot all conflict is bad—in fact, good conflict can deepen your connection and strengthen your marriage. In this episode, we break down the difference between good conflict and bad conflict, and three practical steps you can take that bring you closer, not further apart. EnjoyAsk ChatGPT
Three Levels of Unity
Send us Fan MailIn marriage, unity isn’t just about getting along—it’s about building a deep bond on multiple levels. In this episode, we break down the Three Levels of Unity from Philippians 2. When you move from simply living together to truly partnering in life, work, and faith, your marriage becomes stronger and more fulfilling. Enjoy.
Love Your Spouse Love Yourself
Send us Fan MailWant to feel more fulfilled in life? Start by loving your spouse. In this episode, we unpack the powerful truth that when you love your spouse well, you're actually loving yourself. Loving your spouse isn’t just a gift to them—it’s the best investment you can make in your own well-being. Enjoy.
Raising Godly Kids
Send us Fan MailRaising godly kids doesn’t happen by accident—it takes prayer and example. In this episode, we share three powerful things to pray for and three key things to model. Tune in for practical ways to lead your children with both intention and joy.
Three Ways To Listen
Send us Fan MailIn this episode, we unpack the three types of listening that show up in marriage—and why only one of them leads to real connection. It’s not about winning the conversation—it’s about winning your spouse’s heart. Tune in to discover how shifting your listening style can transform the way you love.
Three Keys To Social Awareness
Send us Fan MailIn marriage, social awareness is a game-changer. In this episode, we explore three simple keys to help you grow: paying attention to cues, bids, and triggers. When you learn to spot these little things, you’ll connect deeper, fight less, and love smarter. Enjoy
Paying The Debt Of Love
Send us Fan MailLove isn't just a feeling—it's a debt we owe, especially in marriage. In this episode, we dive into Romans 13:8 and explore what it means to carry the "continuing debt to love one another" and unpack how recognizing that debt can radically transform your marriage. Enjoy. Come hang with us at our upcoming marriage retreat in Cancun! Click HERE.
Drawing Close In Your Free Time
Send us Fan MailIn today’s fast-paced world, free time with your spouse can feel like a luxury—but it’s essential if you want to stay close and connected. In this episode, we explore four keys to be intentional with your downtime so it draws you closer. Enjoy.Oh, and if you haven't signed up for our marriage retreat on July 14-18, 2025, check it out HERE.
How To Deal With A Difficult Spouse
Send us Fan MailDealing with a difficult spouse can be one of the biggest challenges in a relationship, especially when tensions run high. In this episode, we explore practical strategies to navigate conflict with wisdom and composure. Enjoy!
Three Keys To A Difficult Conversation
Send us Fan MailDifficult conversations are inevitable in any relationship, but how you approach them makes all the difference. In this episode, we break down three keys to handling tough discussions with your spouse without damaging your connection. Enjoy!
Three Traits Of A Good Spouse
Send us Fan MailWhat does love look like in practical terms? In this episode, we dive into three essential qualities every spouse needs to cultivate for a thriving marriage. Whether you’re newly engaged or married for years, these principles will help you strengthen your relationship and grow closer than ever.And come join us in July for a marriage retreat like none other! Click HERE for details.
Two Primal Questions
Send us Fan MailBy the age of four, our souls begin asking two fundamental questions. This episode explores how these deep-rooted needs shape our relationships and how God speaks directly to them in Scripture. Understanding these core questions can transform your marriage and deepen your connection. Enjoy!
The Essential Element Of Love
Send us Fan MailWant your spouse to feel truly loved and deeply connected to you? There’s a simple yet powerful way to make it happen. In today’s episode, we’re uncovering the key to unlocking the most essential element of love and how you can use it to strengthen your bond and bring you closer than ever.Come hang with us in Cancun - click HERE for more details.
Three Types Of Conversations
Send us Fan MailConversations can go off track when people operate in different modes. In this episode, we unpack how to recognize and respond to three types of conversations to better connect with your spouse (or anyone!). Enjoy. Join us at your Beauty In Battle Marriage Retreat in sunny Cancun July 14-18, 2025. Click HERE for details.
Your University Of Relationship
Send us Fan MailHave you ever thought about how the family you grew up in shaped your approach to relationships? The way your mom, dad, siblings, or others in your family treated one another often sets the tone for how you interact with your spouse or loved ones. Today, we’ll dive into how to embrace the good lessons and let go of the unhealthy patterns. Enjoy!
Five Keys To Break The Defensive Cycle
Send us Fan MailWhile it might seem like just an occasional bad habit, unchecked defensiveness can erode trust, prevent healthy conflict resolution, and keep you from having the deep, vulnerable conversations your relationship needs. In this episode, we’ll walk through five keys to help you break it. EnjoyIf you haven't signed up for our exclusive "off-the-charts-amazing" marriage r
The Power Of One Word
Send us Fan MailEach year, we ask God to give us a word that serves as a theme for the following year. It's been a powerful tool that's strengthened us individually and drawn us together as a couple. Today, we'll show you how to come up with your own! Plus, come join us in Cancun to strengthen your marriage like none other! Click HERE for more details.
The Value Of Making Things Special
Send us Fan MailJoin us as we explore the power of intentionality and the art of making moments truly meaningful. Whether you’re newlyweds or celebrating decades together, this podcast reminds you that every day can be extraordinary when you choose to make it special.Join us in sunny Cancun for a marriage retreat like none other! Click HERE for more details.
Three Pillars of Relational Awareness
Send us Fan MailThe strongest couples are those who stay fully present and attentive to each other. Today, we’ll dive into what science reveals about cultivating mindfulness in your marriage to build a deeper, more meaningful connection. Let’s do this!
Three Keys To A Secure Marriage
Send us Fan MailWe’re diving into neuroscience again, exploring three research-backed keys to building a secure attachment with your spouse (and kids). Join us as we unpack the science of relationships and discover the transformative power of living deeply connected to your spouse.Also, join us for our Beauty In Battle Marriage retreat at the luxurious Excellence Coral Playa Mujeres all-inclusive
The Brain Switch
Send us Fan MailWe have more brain science coming your way! Join us as we dive into the power of right-brain thinking and three keys to shift from left to right for deeper connection. Also, tune in for our announcement for the Beauty In Battle Marriage Retreat!! For more information, click HERE.
The Power of Flexibility
Send us Fan MailResearch shows the healthiest people and the healthiest relationships are characterized by flexibility - the capacity to bend without breaking. Join us as we share our discoveries on the power of flexibility in marriage. Enjoy.
Four Types of Destructive Spouses
Send us Fan MailToday is part 2 of our deep dive into the bestselling marriage book Marriage On The Rock by Jimmy Evans. Today, we're talking about the four core needs of a wife and a husband and the four types of destructive spouses. Enjoy.
Marriage On The Rock
Send us Fan MailJoin us as we dive into the four pillars of a strong marriage taken from the best-selling book "Marriage On The Rock" by Jimmy Evans. These keys are taken directly from Scripture and are pivotal if you want a thriving relationship. Enjoy.
Five Keys to a Good Apology
Send us Fan MailJoin us for a discussion on Dr. Gary Chapman's latest book, *The Five Apology Languages*. We'll explore each of the apology languages and how they can help us navigate failures in our marriages. We’ll also touch on the topic of forgiveness. Enjoy!
His Needs Her Needs
Send us Fan MailJoin us as we dive into Willard Harley's best-selling marriage book, His Needs Her Needs. We'll cover the five core needs of each spouse and how his findings relate to our own marriages. Enjoy!
The SAFE Way To Manage Conflict
Send us Fan MailConflict is meant for connection. It's the opportunity to turn "me" into "we." But the key is in how we handle it. Join us as we talk about a research-backed four-part process on how to manage conflict in a way that joins us together rather than tears us apart. Enjoy.
Cultivating Healthy Fear In Marriage
Send us Fan MailDid you know the best marriages have a certain level of fear in the relationship? In today's episode, we dive into two types of fear and four practical ways to cultivate healthy fear so your marriage will thrive. Enjoy!
Five Ways To Find More Time To Spend With Your Spouse
Send us Fan MailIn today's busy world, we must be proactive about spending time with each other. Time is our greatest treasure, and "where your treasure is, your heart will be also." Join us as we discuss five places to find more time! Enjoy
Five Approaches To Conflict
Send us Fan MailEvery couple experiences conflict, and how you handle it can make or break your relationship. In today's episode, we dive into the five approaches to conflict and how to choose the right one at the right time. Enjoy!
Three Laws For Connection
Send us Fan MailJoin us as we dive into a familiar story in the Bible to discover three powerful keys to a deeper connection with your spouse. Taken from Matthew 3, we're going to look at three things God did to draw His Son close to Him and how it relates to marriage. Enjoy!
Keys To Biblical Relationship Success
Send us Fan MailJoin us as we share five keys from the story of Mary and Joseph to help us build strong marriages. We know them as the earthly parents of Jesus, but their lives show us powerful secrets to success in relationships. Enjoy!
Three Powerful Questions
Send us Fan MailWhat do you want to accomplish in your marriage? In today's episode, we'll dive into three powerful questions that will help you achieve that goal. At the end we'll throw in a fun exercise to help lock it in. Enjoy.
Playing Games In Marriage
Send us Fan MailIn life, games are about winners and losers. The problem is, when it comes to relationships, if you choose to play games both people lose. Why? Because in marriage the win is the relationship! Join us as we dive into nine games we can play in our relationships and how to stay out of those silly little games!Enjoy.
Becoming a Better Listener
Send us Fan MailBetter communication leads to a better marriage. And becoming a better listener is the key to being a good communicator. In today's episode, we dive into four key questions to create an environment of emotional safety so you can become a better listener. Enjoy!
How the TERA Quotient Helps Your Marriage
Send us Fan MailThe TERA quotient is a concept used to gauge and improve the quality of relationships, particularly in professional settings, but it can be applied to personal relationships as well. Backed by neuroscience, the TERA quotient can improve the dynamics of marriage, leading to more effective communication, stronger connections, and greater mutual respect.Enjoy!
Communication Mistakes During Times of Stress
Send us Fan MailJoin us as we explore four common mistakes couples make when trying to communicate under stress. We'll dive into each one, backed by research, and then share practical strategies on what to do instead. Enjoy!
Stay Needy Live Healthy
Send us Fan MailDid you know that God is not all that you need? He didn't design you that way. He created you to need others. In this episode we'll tackle two core needs we all have and how our spouse is the primary one who God uses to meet those needs. God made you for relationship. As such, you have inborn needs to draw you close to your spouse. Join us as we tackle two core relationa
Love's Two Essential Questions
Send us Fan MailDid you know your brain subconsciously asks two questions each time you interact with another person? In today's episode, we're going to dive into these two questions and how they can positively impact your marriage. Thanks to the research of Dr. Chip Dodd, we have plenty to talk about in this episode! Enjoy.
Five Keys to a Happy Marriage
Send us Fan MailOver 40 years of research by the good folks at Prepare Enrich have revealed five keys that make the happiest marriages. Tune in as we dive into each of them. Enjoy.
Questions For Deeper Connection
Send us Fan MailEver felt a stalemate when it came to thinking of stuff to talk about with your spouse? Today's episode will cure you of that! Join us as we dive into specific questions you can ask your spouse that will help you connect on a deep level. And, as promised on the pod, here are a list of the questions: Before you talk, here are some questions to ask yourself about your spouse: W
Marriage On Mission - An Interview With our Missionary Friends
Send us Fan MailJoin us and our close friends, Trent and Amy Pruett, missionaries in the Philippines, as we discuss how they manage to run a growing ministry and full-time business while thriving in their relationship. You'll enjoy this podcast as it gives practical takeaways you can apply in your marriage today.
Rekindling Romance
Send us Fan MailDid you know the fire you once felt in your marriage doesn't have to die down or even simmer? You can and should keep it burning hot! This episode will dive into the building blocks of romance and the three keys to ignite the flame once again. Enjoy!
The Myth of the 50/50 Marriage
Send us Fan MailTo thrive in your marriage, shift your focus from tallying points in your relationship to building a winning connection with your spouse. In this episode, we'll share three essential strategies to help you make this shift. Enjoy!
The HERO Journey
Send us Fan MailDo you want to know your spouse better? How about deepening your understanding of yourself? Today's episode will help you do just that. We're going to ask you one powerful question that will draw you close to your spouse and open your eyes to who you were made to be!We call this "The HERO Journey." It's going to bless your life and marriage in a big way. E
Connecting Through Conversation
Send us Fan MailHave you ever been lost in a conversation with someone and totally lost track of time? You enjoy it so much. Why? Subconsciously, you are connecting with them, and God made us for connection. In this episode we dive into the research behind what makes "super communicators" and how we can emulate their practices in marriage. Enjoy.
Three Keys to Intimacy
Send us Fan MailWe were created for oneness with our spouse. The question is, how do we practically do it? Today's episode will give you three keys to drawing close and staying close to your spouse so you can experience a marriage that will last. Enjoy.
Self Awareness in Marriage
Send us Fan MailThe healthiest marriages are emotionally intelligent marriages. And the key to emotional intelligence is self-awareness. Join us as we discuss the three levels of self-awareness and how you can walk through each level to strengthen your marriage. Enjoy!
Harnessing Emotions to Strengthen Your Marriage
Send us Fan MailOne of our greatest needs is emotional connection. Harnessed properly, emotions can draw you together in a deep and powerful way. Today's episode is all about helping you do just that. Join us as we share three keys to emotional connection built upon a Biblical and scientific framework. Enjoy!
Two Powerful Questions
Send us Fan MailIf you want to magnetize your spouse to you, this episode is a "must-listen." We're going to share two powerful questions that will put you in a frame of mind to draw your spouse close and connect you emotionally. Enjoy!
Six Healthy Marriage Habits
Send us Fan MailJoin us as we discuss six key marriage habits we've discovered that have drawn us closer and helped us turn conflict into connection. Based on proven research, these six keys can revolutionize your marriage!
Four Pillars of a Strong Marriage
Send us Fan MailJoin us as we dive into a little brain science that shows the power of our right-brain and how it is wired to run on four key things. These four keys are pillars that will support and strengthen your marriage when you apply them to your relationship. Enjoy!
Dealing With Insecurity In Marriage
Send us Fan MailIntimacy is to be fully known and fully accepted. God made us for intimacy - both with Himself and with others. In marriage, intimacy is the lifeblood of your relationship. But it's hard. Why? Because intimacy reveals insecurity. In today's episode, we dive into the topic of insecurity and give three keys on how to overcome it. You'll enjoy this Valentine's Day
A 3-Part Grid For Conflict Resolution
Send us Fan MailToday's episode is all about how to properly manage conflict and a 3-part grid we've learned that has helped us overcome conflict in our own marriage. It's built upon the foundation that conflict is meant for connection - it’s God’s way of turning you from “me” into “we.” This mindset will help you w/any conflict. Join us as we share this unique grid that can help yo
The Powerful Role of the HELPER
Send us Fan MailThis episode is sure to blow your hair back, especially if you're a wife! We dive deep into the meaning of the phrase "helper suitable" and the powerful implications it has on the role of a woman in marriage. Taken from the context of creation and attaching a new spin on relationship dynamics, this conversation will leave you feeling empowered and excited about your
Two Words To Grow Your Marriage
Send us Fan MailEach year we ask God to give us a word for the following year. This year God gave us two words (well, technically four, but who's counting?). Today, we're gonna share those words with you and how you can use them to help build and grow your relationship. Enjoy
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