THE MEN'S SELF HELP PODCAST
The Men's Self-Help Podcast offers practical guidance for men navigating anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, stress, relationships, emotional health, and personal growth. Hosted by Dr. John Moore, a licensed psychotherapist and men's mental health specialist, each episode explores real-life challenges in a straightforward, relatable, and easy-to-understand way. Using solution-focused strategies and insights from psychology, the podcast helps men—and the people who care about them—better understand their emotions, change unhelpful patterns, build confidence, and move forward with greater purpose. Whether you are struggling with overthinking, people-pleasing, boundaries, motivation, body image, loneliness, or major life changes, you will find practical ideas that can help you create meaningful change.
Episodes
How To Stop Anticipatory Anxiety and Calm Your Inner C-3PO
Ever notice how your brain can take something that might happen and somehow convince you it's probably going to happen? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John explores anticipatory anxiety through one of the galaxy's greatest worriers: C-3PO. Whether you're waiting for a text, worrying about a conversation with your boss, preparing for holiday travel, or waiting on medical test r
How To Stop Negative People From Infecting Your Mindset ⚡
How to Protect Your Mindset From Negative People Have you ever shared a goal, dream, or idea with someone only to have them immediately tell you why it won't work? Maybe you've been told you're not smart enough, talented enough, experienced enough, attractive enough, or capable enough. Or maybe you have someone in your life who seems to find something negative to say about almost everything you're
How to Stop Being a Nice Guy and People Pleaser 😀
Stop Being a Nice Guy and People Pleaser Are you tired of being a nice guy and people and people pleaser? Sick of feeling like you're being taken advantage of? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores the hidden cost of chronic people-pleasing and why it often goes unnoticed in men. What looks like being dependable, hardworking, loyal, or simply being a good guy may
Building Confidence: 10 Habits of Men Who Have Their Shit Together
Trying to build confidence? How Do You Actually Get Your Life Together as a Man? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores 10 habits of men who have their sh*t together and what getting your life together actually looks like in the real world. Drawing on more than two decades of clinical experience in men's work, Dr. John breaks down practical habits for men focused
Stop Musterbating Everywhere! How to Stop "Shoulding" on Yourself
How to Stop "Shoulding" on Yourself Do you constantly tell yourself you should be doing better, that you must have everything figured out, or that life ought to be different? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores the psychology of musterbation — the rigid musts, shoulds, and oughts that can put enormous pressure on us and make it harder to deal with everyday life.
How to Quiet Your Anxious Brain With Something in the Nothing
Have you ever finally gotten a chance to relax—only to discover that you can't handle the quiet? In Episode 47 of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores why stillness can feel strangely uncomfortable in a world filled with notifications, headlines, endless scrolling, and constant demands for our attention. Drawing from a personal experience in Puerto Rico, Dr. John explains how repea
How to Build a Morning Routine That Actually Works
Ever notice how some mornings seem to set the tone for your entire day? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores what makes a healthy morning routine actually work—and why you don't need an elaborate, social media-worthy ritual to start your day on the right foot. You'll learn why your morning routine should focus on four essential goals: waking up your body, settlin
I'm Back: The Men's Self-Help Podcast Returns
After a long break, The Men's Self-Help Podcast is coming back. In this brief return message, Dr. John shares why he stepped away, why he decided to return, and what listeners can expect going forward. New episodes will focus on men's mental health, relationships, emotional wellness, and practical tools you can actually use. The first full episode returns next week with a conversation about what t
Encore: Is It Time To Take a Break from Social Media?
This encore presentation explores the five signs you may need to take a break from social media. Visit this link for show notes on the Guy Counseling blog.
How to Stop Letting People Get Under Your Skin
Do you struggle with people getting under your skin? Are you easily triggered by certain comments or topics? Hoping to create positive change? In this episode sponsored by Better Help, Dr. John explores how to stop letting people get under your skin. You'll hear about the story of Austin, a young man who lost his temper on a train. Discover approaches to counseling including EMDR and Internal Fami
4 Keys To Changing Unhealthy Behaviors
Are you trying to change an unhealthy behavior? Do you drink too much, eat too much or smoke too much? Is there a part of you who has come to realize your relationship with gambling, porn or shopping is toxic? In this episode of the Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John explores the process of change and how using the REST technique may be helpful. REST is the acronym for RELAX, EXAMINE, SET YOUR INTE
5 Strategies To Find Your Purpose In Life
Trying to discover your life purpose? Does it feel like your life lacks meaning? In this episode, Dr. John goes over five specific strategies to help you find yourself and your life purpose. Using a combination of story telling with insights from Carl Jung, you can find out new things about yourself and train your brain to stimulate your Reticular Activating System, the part of the brain that is c
How To Reprogram Your Anxious Mind
Do you feel your mind is wired for anxiety? Do you constantly worry about failing? Are you looking for concrete ways to create positive change? In this episode, Dr. John explores the relationship between your thoughts, your brain and anxiety. Discover why fight, flight or freeze can be so powerful. Learn several easy-to-use coping techniques for creating calm as part of reprograming your anxious m
What Is Pronoia? Could Life Be Working in Your Favor?
What Is Pronoia? Could Life Be Working in Your Favor? What if instead of believing the world was working against you, you experimented with the possibility that things might actually be working in your favor? In this episode of The Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore explores pronoia, a concept often described as the opposite of paranoia. With paranoia, we may interpret events as evidence that
7 Top Reasons Men Seek Out Therapy
Have you ever wondered why some men seek out therapy? Are you in counseling now and curious to know if other guys are struggling with the same issues? In this episode, Dr. John reveals the top 7 reasons men go into counseling. As part of the show, he also answers a listener email from a man who has become dependent on using alcohol to become socially lubricated before going out on a date. Resour
7 Things Women Secretly Say About Men in Therapy
Do you ever wonder what women say about men in therapy? What are some of the common themes that come up when it comes to men? Can knowing about some of these topics help you in your relationships? In this episode, Dr. John walks you through seven common themes that women touch on about men in the counseling office. Some of these may seem like common sense. Others may cause you to pause and reflect
How to QUICKLY Get Out of a Funk
At some point, all of us fall into a funk. In this episode, I'm going to give you 7 of my tips for pulling yourself out of a funk BEFORE it turns into a rut! Learn how to help boost your mood quickly and create positive change. Episode infused with some of the teaching of Dr. William Glasser, the Father of Reality Therapy and Choice Theory. Show Notes on the www.guycounseling.com blog. William Gl
What If Positive Thinking Doesn't Work?
Everyone knows positive thinking can be helpful, but what happens when it doesn't work? Can you make yourself feel worse by forcing happy talk? In this episode, Dr. John explores the downside to positive thinking and how trying to deny your feelings can be harmful. Learn about an alternative called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Also, you'll hear from a listener who describes himself as overwe
Preventing Anger From Turning Into Rage With DBT
Do you suppress your anger? When you do express these feelings, do you blow up on people, like your partner, children, or coworkers? Looking for practical tools to create change? In this episode of the Men's Self-Help Podcast, Dr. John Moore will teach you two POWERFUL tools from the world of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) that can be used as coping strategies. Learn how to channel your anger
What To Do When Your Partner Never Initiates Sex
Do you have a partner who never initiates sex? Has this dynamic caused frustration or confusion in your relationship? In this episode of the Men's Self-Help Podcast, sponsored by BetterHelp, Dr. John explores the idea of "It's Always Been This Way" and how reframing the core question can create real change. You'll also hear from a listener who wants to know if it's OK to start dating someone he pr
7 Ways To Combat Negative Self-Talk
Do you struggle with negative self-talk? Has it caused you to derail? Hoping to learn how to combat it? In this episode, sponsored by Better Help, Dr. John Moore creates a metaphor with your mind being a train and how – if you aren't careful – your thoughts can act as objects that can lead to derailment. You'll learn 7 concrete ways from combatting negative thinking, plus several resources. You'll
Is Erotic Hypnosis Real?
Show Notes: You may have heard of the term erotic hypnosis, but does such a thing exist? In this episode of the Men's Self-Help Podcast sponsored by Better Help, Dr. John explores the topic of hypnosis and offers listeners a working definition. He then moves on to explaining what erotic hypnosis is – and what it is not. Examples and resources are shared as part of the experience. You'll also hea
7 Ways To Dial Down Perfectionism
Struggling with perfectionism? Looking for practical ways to create change? In this episode, Dr. John Moore explores some of the causal reasons behind perfectionism, which are largely linked to early childhood. In addition, you'll be offered 7 straightforward ways to dial down perfectionism in your own life. As part of the show sponsored today by Better Help, you'll hear an email from a man who is
7 Ways To Stop Obsessive Thinking
Learn the signs and symptoms of obsessive thinking, also referred to as rumination. Click here to access shownotes with informational links for episode 28. You can also visit the show's website at guycounseling.com to access the shownotes.
How To Create Physical Intimacy Through Mindfulness
Searching for ways to create physical intimacy in your relationship? In this show, Dr. John walks listeners through the technique of sensate focus. Learn how to bring that feeling of closeness and intuitiveness back to your love life. Learn about a 10% discount to listeners of the podcast with BetterHelp. Visit show notes on the blog for handouts and resources.
How To Create Motivation For Goals
Do you struggle to find the motivation to reach goals, like exercising, eating healthier or learning a new skill? Does depression get in your way of motivation? In this podcast, Dr. Moore explores goal attainment using the "As If" technique. He also responds to a listener email regarding the idea of moving in together before getting married.
How To Deal With Toxic Shame
Do you struggle with shame? Are you looking for healthy ways of working through? Trying to up your self-esteem? In this podcast, Dr. John explores the issue of toxic shame and explains: 1. What shame is 2. How it manifests psychologically and physiologically 3. Concrete steps for working through See Show Notes for specifics on this topic and links to helping resources.
Anxiety Podcast: Autogenic Training Meditation
In this podcast, learn how to reduce anxiety and cope with stress through Autogenic Training (AT). Discover a new way to create calm from within. Narrated by Dr. Moore, listen as he guides you through an amazing experience while teaching you a tool for coping with anxiety. Copy of narration available in show notes. This anxiety podcast is designed as a tool for healthy coping.
7 Concrete Ways To Boost Your Self-Worth
In this episode, learn about the concept of self-worth and how perception is projection. Discover 7 unique ways to boost your self-esteem. See this page on Guy Counseling for complete show notes on this episode of the Men's Self-Help Podcast.
Viking Meditation: Thor's Hammer For Sexual Confidence
Using metaphor, Nordic myth and elements from popular culture, this recording is designed to enhance sexual confidence and boost self-esteem in other life areas. The recording is "G" rated and does not contain any offensive language. See show notes to learn more on this Viking Meditation to learn more.
How To Create a Circle of Confidence - A Hypnotic Meditation
Struggle with self-esteem? Looking to increase your level of confidence? Need to be more assertive? In this episode, Dr. Moore guides you through a guided imagery meditation through self-hypnosis. Affirmations are included to help boost feelings of self worth. Learn how to create your personal circle of confidence and experience inner strength. To learn more, visit this post from Moore's website
7 Goal Setting Mistakes That Stop You From Success
Do you struggle with achieving your goals? Here's 7 common mistakes with goal setting that may be sabotaging your changes at success. Informational links with handouts to help you stay on track to goal attainment.
7 Ways To Gain Confidence In Dating (E19)
Have you recently found yourself back on the dating scene? Do you struggle with confidence and dating? In this episode, Dr. John Moore explores 7 unique ways you can increase your confidence in the world of dating. As part of the show, Dr. Moore calls on the resources of Chicago psychologist Dr. Tyler Fortman and shares 7 ways to boost self-esteem when dating. Click here to review complete show n
E18: 5 Signs It's Time To Take a Break From Social Media
How do you know when it's time to take a break from social media? How much is too much time spent on Instagram, Facebook or Snapchat? Dr. Moore offers 5 warning signs that it may be time to take a break from social media, particularly for those who struggle with a mental health issue like anxiety or depression. Listener email shared from man who has OCD and isn't sure if he should tell his girlfr
E17. 5 Ways To Break The Cycle of Dating Toxic People
Do you attract unhealthy people to your life - romantic partners that are toxic? Have you been dating the same "type" of person, over and over again? If so, you aren't alone. In this episode, Dr. Moore examines the issue of attraction and romance and how early childhood experiences have a way of influencing us in the here and now. When listening, you'll learn 5 steps that you can take to break th
E16: "My Girlfriend Cheated On Me - What Should I Do?"
Have you recently found out your girlfriend cheated on you? Not sure what do to? In this podcast, Dr. Moore offers 10 coping strategies in the aftermath of infidelity. He also answers a listener email from a man who doesn't understand why his girlfriend never initiates in the bedroom. Resources Mentioned In Show: Intuition and gender Journal of Personality and Psychology on gender and intuition C
7 Assertiveness Skills Worth Growing + Do I Have a Drinking Problem?
Assertiveness – it's a topic that comes up from guys a lot in counseling. Most men want to know "How can I be more assertive?" In this podcast, Dr. Moore explores this topic in detail. As part of the discussion, he'll contrast the differences between being assertive and being aggressive. In this show, you will learn: • A working definition of assertiveness • How assertiveness and aggressiveness di
E14: PTSD and Men - Getting Help and Ridding Shame
Do you struggle with PTSD? Wondering about the symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder? Curious about what this mental health challenge is all about? In this podcast, Dr. Moore explores PTSD in detail. You'll learn a basic definition of Post-Traumatic Stress and 5 things to consider when trying to find help. Resources mentioned in the show: Long Term Deployments and Stress (military) https://w
E13: 10 Signs You Have People Pleasing Syndrome
Do you say yes to everyone? Are you taking on more than you should but can't say no? Is it causing you problems emotionally and physically? If so, you may have people pleasing syndrome as the result of being a people pleaser. Learn 10 signs you may have this problem plus what to do about it. Show Highlights: 10 traits of people pleasers How people pleasing happens in people 10 symptoms of people
What Is Your Love Style in Relationships + Penis Shame and Men
What kind of lover are you? In this podcast, we examine six love styles as offered by the sociologist John A. Lee. We also explore how the past can influence our attachment style in the here and now. A listener email is also shared where he reveals serious penis shame. Resources: Lee's Love Styles: http://www.psychologycharts.com/six-love-styles.html Love Style Quiz based on Lee's work: http://cou
5 Tips For Creating a Stress Management Program
Feeling stress? Need some help with developing a stress management program? Here's 5 tips. In this episode, we also discuss an email from a listener who was told by his girlfriend that she no longer finds him attractive. What to do when someone you are dating reveals they aren't into you. How stress effects the body from the Mayo Clinic https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-managemen
E10: 7 Ways To Build Mental Toughness Rooted In Reality For Men
Hoping to build build mental toughness? Trying to up your confidence? In this show, we examine 7 skills you can build to increase mental toughness that are rooted in reality. Tips offered through the writings of Dr. Alan Goldberg in his book "Sports Slump Busting": https://www.amazon.com/Sports-Slump-Busting-Alan-Goldberg/dp/1625504756 Article on building mental toughness from Guy Counseling: http
E9: 8 Ways To Increase Self-Esteem And Boost Your Confidence
Do you struggle with self-esteem? Hunting for ways to boost your confidence? Here's 8 ways to create positive change in your life and feel better about yourself. In this podcast, learn: -8 self-esteem hacks based on suggestions from Dr. Brian Luke Seaward, author of Managing Stress: https://www.amazon.com/Managing-Stress-Principles-Strategies-Well-Being/dp/1284126269 - Learn about cognitive restru
E8: 10 Things Depression Doesn't Want You To Know!
10 Things Depression Doesn't Want You To Know I wrote this on Psychcentral several years ago. Here's the link: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/life-goals/2014/11/10-things-depression-doesnt-want-you-to-know/ National Alliance On Mental Illness Learn about different mental health issues, including depression. https://www.nami.org/ DSM 5 Depression Criteria https://www.psycom.net/depression-definit
E6. 7 Ways To Deal With Imposter Syndrome
Ever feel like you are a fake? Do you question if you are really qualified to be doing what you are doing? If so, you may have imposter syndrome. Learn all about imposter syndrome, what causes it, the typical signs, and 7 things you can do about it. Change is possible in your life and so are new beginnings. 5 types of imposter syndrome traits explored based on Dr. Valerie Young's work: https://ww
E5: 5 Ways To Get Past Gym Fears Because of Body Image Issues
Do you struggle with self-esteem? Want to work out but intimidated by more muscular people? Trying to change your body but can't get past your anxiety about going to the gym? In this podcast, we explore body image issues, fear, and exercise. Learn 5 ways to move past gym fears so you can build the body of your dreams. If you are a man who just can't get over the hump of feeling intimidated by othe
E4: What is anxiety and fear?
What is anxiety? Where does it come from and how do you cope with it? This podcast explores anxiety and fear and assesses acceptance as a coping strategy. Do you struggle with anxiety? Gain new insights. Be sure to visit www.guycounseling.com
E3: 6 Primary Traits of Type A Personalities - Working For a Controlling Boss and Nasty Co-Workers
What is a Type A personality? In this podcast, we explore the six primary traits of Type A Personalities. In this podcast, you will learn: - Traits of Type A personalities. - Health risks for "Type A". - Coping with Type A personality types. Learn all about Type A's. Click to listen and then visit www.guycounseling.com
Sleep Hypnosis
Trouble sleeping? Learn a new skill by engaging in self-hypnosis with this guided meditation. Train your body to relax and fall into a deeper, more meaningful sleep.
E2: 10 Irrational Thinking Patterns That Skyrocket Your Anxiety
Do you struggle with irrational beliefs? Have you engaged in thinking distortions? This audio recording accompanies the post "10 Ways Irrational Thinking Increases Learn about thought distortions and more at the Guy Counseling Blog on this post: https://guycounseling.com/ten-irrational-thinking-anxiety/
E1: Positive Body Affirmations For Wounded Self-Esteem
Body image affirmations through guided imagery with Dr. John Moore
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