Unblock Your BS
Hosted by Coach Tara, a certified somatic release breathwork practitioner and self-awareness coach, this podcast offers a no-nonsense approach to personal growth. It covers topics like self-love, emotional intelligence, healing from anxiety and depression, breaking toxic cycles, and overcoming people-pleasing and self-abandonment in relationships. Each episode aims to help listeners navigate breakups, burnout, and find their authentic voice, while encouraging radical ownership of life. The show's mission is to help people rewrite their stories and unblock their potential.
Episodes
He Was Called Needy, Sensitive and "The Female in the Relationship"
This week's coaching episode is a behind-the-scenes look at an actual coaching call. Our guest came in wanting help moving on from a 12-year relationship, still holding onto the belief that if he could just do things differently, it could still work. What we uncover instead is a pattern of people-pleasing and self-abandonment that goes back much further than this relationship, and what it actuall
Why Some Men Obsess Over Understanding Their Ex
Your wife wants a divorce. She's cold. She won't talk. Maybe she refuses counseling. Maybe she's blaming you for everything that went wrong. And your brain has decided there's one thing you need to do: Figure her out. Why is she doing this? What happened to the woman you married? What could you say that would finally make her understand? In this episode, Tara is joined by divorce coach Rachael Slo
Why Men Need Other Men to Heal
You can have buddies you golf with, hunt with, work with, grab beers with and still have absolutely nobody in your life who knows what's actually going on with you. Chuck, Barrett, and Bob discovered the difference. All three joined Healthy Men-tality in August 2025. A year later, they're still here... because they found something they didn't want to give up: a community of men willing to be open,
"I Have Everything, But I Feel Nothing" (One Man's Wake-Up Call)
What happens when you have the marriage, the family, the life you worked for... and somehow you still feel nothing? That's where "Earl" found himself. After more than 40 years with his wife, their marriage had been hanging by a thread. Earl knew something needed to change, but traditional therapy hadn't gotten him very far. Then he started looking at something he'd never really understood before:
How to Stay Calm When Your Body Wants to Panic
Most people think nervous system regulation is just another wellness buzzword. Take a deep breath. Meditate. Calm down. But what does it actually mean to regulate your nervous system when your body feels like everything is an emergency? In this week's episode, Tara sits down with Aleksandra Chojnicka, founder and CEO of Detox House, a nervous system resilience coach who helps high achievers build
Accountability Isn't Self-Abandonment (Most Men Learn This Too Late)
One of the hardest parts of separation isn't the loss of the relationship... It's the desperate hope that one day they'll finally understand your side. That they'll acknowledge what you carried. That they'll admit it wasn't all your fault. "Rob" applied to come on for coaching while going through a separation. He'd already taken responsibility for his side, but he was stuck needing his wife to ack
Being the "Nice Guy" Almost Cost Him Everything
You did the work. You went to therapy, you changed how you show up, you really tried to become a better man. And it still wasn't enough to make her stay. So now you're stuck asking yourself, why wasn't I enough? If that question has been living in your head, this one's for you. "Todd" came into Healthy Men-tality trying to save his marriage. Instead, his wife left and quickly moved another man i
Why "Happy Wife, Happy Life" Is Wrecking Your Marriage
The relationship advice you've heard your whole life might actually be keeping you stuck. "Happy wife, happy life." "Never go to bed angry." "Learn to compromise." Most of us were handed these ideas long before we ever understood relationships. They sound loving. They sound wise. But what if they're quietly creating resentment, self-abandonment, scorekeeping, and emotional distance instead? In thi
The Truth About Forgiveness Nobody Talks About
How long are you going to keep punishing yourself for it? You hurt someone, or someone hurt you, and you're still carrying it, still replaying it, still waiting to feel like you've finally paid enough. If that's you, this one's worth your time. In this week's episode, Tara goes deep on forgiveness, the kind people get completely wrong. Not letting someone off the hook, not pretending it didn't hu
How Childhood Trauma Destroyed His Marriage
⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode includes conversations about suicide, suicidal ideation, depression, pornography addiction, childhood trauma, emotional abuse, and divorce. Please listen at your own pace. If these topics feel overwhelming right now, it's okay to come back to this episode when you're ready. You can spend years just getting through life, providing, showing up, going through the mot
Can You Really Trust Again After Betrayal?
You almost lost the whole thing. And now, somehow, it's good again. Better than it's ever been, even. So why can't you actually enjoy it? Why does part of you keep waiting for the floor to drop out? In this week's coaching episode, "Steve" reached out to Tara while he was in the middle of filing for divorce after an affair. Months later, the divorce is off the table and he and his wife are more c
What Happens When Only One Partner Does the Work
You've been doing the work. So why does she still have her guard up like nothing's changed? In this episode, Tara sits down with Coleman, one of the coaches inside Healthy Men-tality, and her own personal nervous system coach. Because he primarily supports women and Tara primarily supports men, the two of them get to see both sides of what happens inside a relationship when nervous systems start t
You Didn't Lose Your Marriage. You Lost Yourself First.
You thought you were loving your family. But what if you were slowly abandoning yourself? In today's episode, Tara reads a post from one of the men inside Healthy Men-tality, shared word-for-word, about what doing the work actually looks like in real time. The ups, the downs, and the slow peeling back of the patterns underneath his behavior. He writes about self-sacrificing his own needs for years
How a Man Can Be Successful and Still Have a Personal Life That's Falling Apart
⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode includes open discussion of suicide and self-harm. If you're in a hard place right now, it's completely okay to skip this one and come back when you're ready, or pick a different episode. If you do listen, go gentle with yourself and take breaks if you need them. "Tom" came into the Healthy Men-tality program looking, from the outside, like a man who had it all fig
"I Thought Providing Was Love"
Most men don't lose their relationship overnight. It happens slowly. Long work hours. Emotional avoidance. Constant stress. Feeling like roommates instead of partners. One person asking for connection while the other thinks, "I'm doing all of this for us… why isn't it enough?" In this episode, Marcus opens up about the collapse of his six-year relationship, discovering his partner was emotionally
The "Good Guy" Trap That Quietly Destroys Relationships
What happens when a man spends years trying to earn love by abandoning himself? In this episode, I sit down with Healthy Men-tality member Carlos for an honest conversation about nervous system regulation, shame, people-pleasing, emotional burnout, marriage struggles, and learning how to stop losing yourself inside relationships. Carlos shares what led him to the program after his wife hit a break
The "Nice Guy" Pattern That Pushes Love Away
Most men were never taught how to stay present when emotions get big. So when conflict happens in a relationship… they either shut down, try to fix it, disappear emotionally, or explode. Then comes the shame spiral. "I'm failing." "I'm broken." "I can't do this right." In this episode, Dave Lishansky and I unpack what's actually happening underneath those reactions, and why so many "nice guys" a
"Why Now?" Why Did It Take Losing Me for You to Change?
Some women spend years trying to explain the same pain. Different wording. Different tone. Different timing. Eventually the tears stop. The conversations get shorter. The resentment gets quieter. And then one day she says she's done. That's usually when panic finally kicks in. In this episode, Tara breaks down one of the hardest questions men face once they start healing after separation or divorc
The Moment He Stopped Chasing Love He Couldn't Get
Joey didn't walk into this expecting anything emotional. He thought he'd get a tactic. Maybe a business insight. Something useful he could apply. Instead, he ended up face to face with something he hadn't fully processed in years. His mom. She passed away when he was 23. He's 48 now. And somewhere along the way, without really realizing it, he'd been trying to recreate that connection. In relation
What Men Get Wrong About Being a "Good Husband"
This episode is what transformation actually sounds like in real time. Not polished. Not filtered. Not "I've got it all figured out." Just honest. Glenn came into Healthy Men-tality in the middle of a brutal divorce after a 20+ year marriage that had slowly turned into disconnection, resentment, and survival mode. What he didn't realize at the time? He wasn't just leaving a relationship. He was le
Why You're Crushing It at Work but Losing Your Relationship
You're successful… so why is your relationship falling apart? If you feel respected, valued, and confident in your career but disconnected, criticized, or unwanted at home… This episode will explain why. Inside this conversation, we break down the real root of "roommate marriages", and why traditional advice doesn't work What You'll Learn: Why your brain is wired to chase achievement over connec
She Said "I'm Done"… 3 Months Later, He Became a Different Man
She said she was done. No real explanation. Just "I'm unhappy." And everything Skippy thought was stable... wasn't. In this episode, Tara sits down with Healthy Men-tality member Skippy to talk through what the early stages of separation actually looked like, and how he went from full panic mode to something he hadn't felt in years: clarity. In this episode: Why trying harder often makes things
From the ER to Breath Work: What Unprocessed Grief Does to a Man's Body
There's a moment when everything you thought was stable… isn't. Not slowly. Not with warning. Just… gone! That's where this conversation starts. Bill was married for 16 years. He thought they had normal problems. Manageable ones. Then one conversation changed everything. His wife asked for a divorce… and he found out she had already moved on. In this episode of Unblock Your BS, I sit down with lis
Why She Sends TikToks Instead of Talking
If your partner is constantly sending you relationship content… and your first instinct is to feel annoyed, confused, or defensive… This episode is going to challenge that. Because what looks like a "TikTok problem"… is usually a communication and emotional safety problem. Inside this solo episode, we break down what's actually happening when someone avoids direct communication, and how your respo
Men Don't Have to Get Screwed in Divorce (Here's the Playbook)
Most people don't go into marriage expecting it to end. And when it does… they don't have a roadmap. If you're a man facing divorce, you've probably heard the same story on repeat: You'll lose your money. You'll lose your kids. The system is rigged against you. But what if most of that is just noise? In this episode of Unblock Your BS, I sit down with Joe Dillon, co-founder of Equitable Mediation
From Affairs + Escapism to Healing: Coleman's Nervous System Comeback
At 25, Coleman was cheating on his wife, chronically lying, and living in constant fight-or-flight. He didn't just lose his marriage. He realized he didn't like who he had become. This episode is the raw, unfiltered story of what it actually takes to change, not through mindset hacks, but through nervous system healing. From rock bottom… to somatic work, subconscious reprogramming, breathwork, an
I Lost My Marriage… and Found Myself
Some moments in life split your story into two chapters: Before. And after. For Charlie, that moment happened the night he discovered his wife was having an affair. After 15 years together, his marriage collapsed overnight. His nervous system spiraled. His identity shattered. And he found himself sitting in his car wondering how his life had fallen apart so quickly. But that breakdown became the b
Rebuilding Trust With Yourself After Cheating, Divorce, or Betrayal
Heartbreak has a way of exposing patterns we didn't even realize we were living inside of. In this episode, Tara sits down with heartbreak and relationship coach Erica Wright to unpack the deeper dynamics that show up in relationships, especially after betrayal, divorce, or emotional disconnection. The conversation explores how codependency develops, why people often ignore their intuition in rela
Navigating Post-Divorce Grief
Divorce is messy. It's grief. It's a relief. It's rage. It's freedom. Sometimes all in the same week. In this solo episode, I break down what really happens after divorce, especially for the men I work with inside Healthy Men-tality. The bitterness. The bargaining. The shame spiral. The temptation to jump into something new just to avoid being alone. And here's the bold truth: Dating while you're
Reigniting Desire: From Roommate Marriage to Real Intimacy with Dan Purcell
You're good teammates.Good parents. But behind closed doors?Something's missing. The spark.The fire.The "I can't wait to touch you" energy. Most couples don't talk about sex or nobody knows how to actually talk about it. In this episode, I sit down with sex and intimacy coach Dan Purcell to talk about what's really underneath the roommate marriage phase and why trying to "get more sex" is often t
She Cheated. Here's What I Did Instead of Exploding
Two D' Days. That's what Clayton calls them. The day he discovered the sexual affair. And the day he found out it wasn't the only one. She cheated. Twice. When he found out about the affairs, his reality shattered. He stopped functioning. Sat on the couch. Scrolled TikTok for answers. Six months later? His marriage is still rocky. But he's calm. Clear. Grounded. And not afraid anymore. In this ep
You Changed. She's Still Mad.
You finally decided to do the work. You're learning about nervous system regulation. You're reflecting on your patterns. You're trying to show up differently. And instead of relief… She says: "Why now?" "I've been asking for this for years." In this episode, Tara breaks down: Why resentment often shows up when growth begins What emotional shutdown in women actually means Why your healing doe
Why Defensiveness Is Wrecking Your Relationship (And What It's Really Protecting)
If every conversation with your partner feels like an attack… If feedback turns into defensiveness, shutdowns, or arguments… If you keep asking yourself, "Why does this keep happening?" This episode is for you. In today's conversation, I break down why defensiveness isn't confidence or self-advocacy… it's a nervous system response rooted in shame and early childhood wiring. We're unpacking: Why
What does emotional safety really mean?
When life punches you in the throat (flu, ice storm, a branch through your roof at 5am… you know, casual "unprecedented times" stuff), you learn real fast what "emotional safety" actually means. And here's the thing: emotional safety has become a buzzword. A lot of women use it. A lot of men hear it and instantly translate it as physical safety. "I've never hit her." "I don't scream." "I would nev
"I Only Feel Anger and Barely Joy" When a Man Goes Numb
Wayne is separated from his wife of 30 years and after starting therapy, he's realizing something that hits a lot of men like a truck: He spent decades hiding emotions to keep the peace… until his body couldn't do it anymore. In this coaching episode, we talk about emotional shutdown, suppressed rage, and why Wayne mostly feels anger and barely joy with almost nothing in between. We break down wha
Divorce Papers on the Counter: A Fearful Avoidant's Wake-Up Call
He came home from an AA meeting. The kids were gone. His wife was gone. Divorce papers were sitting on the counter. And that was just the beginning. In today's coaching episode, I'm talking with Onus bout what happens when: your nervous system lives on high alert, being misunderstood feels like a threat, anger shows up before vulnerability, and your relationships become a constant attempt
If She's "Always Mad," You're Missing the Point (And Making It Worse)
When your partner is "mad," most people react like anger is the problem. It's not. Anger is usually protection and what's underneath it is what actually needs care, leadership, and emotional intelligence. In this episode, I'm going to break down what happens when men outsource emotional labor to women, why women's hormones can amplify stress without either partner realizing what's happening, and h
From Human Doing to Human Being: Healing the "I'm Not Enough" BS Belief
You can know all the nervous system language, do the breathwork, read the books, got therapy… and still find yourself lying awake at 3 a.m. replaying every conversation with your partner (past or present), wondering why you STILL feel like a failure. In today's episode, I coach Autumn - a recently divorced listener to the pod - through the question that's been running her entire life since childho
How to Survive the Holidays During or After Divorce
When you're going through a separation or divorce, the holiday season doesn't feel magical… it feels like a spotlight on everything that's changed. Waking up in a quiet house… splitting time with your kids for the first time… trying to act "fine" while everyone around you is celebrating, it can make even the strongest men feel cracked open. In this episode, I share what no one prepares you for du
From Saving the Marriage to Saving Himself: Brian's Shift from Fixing to Leading
When Brian joined Healthy Men-tality, his marriage was on life support. He was desperate to fix the cracks that had formed after trust was broken but what he discovered was that the real repair had to start within himself. In this raw, powerful conversation, Brian shares how learning nervous system regulation, emotional safety, and inner healing shifted him from people-pleasing and fear of abandon
The "Not Good Enough" Trap: Jim's 40-Year Cycle of Self-Abandonment (and How to Break It)
Men: if you're exhausted trying to "be enough" and fix everything at home, this episode shows how to stop self-abandoning, regulate, and lead yourself so connection actually grows (instead of resentment). In this coaching episode, we unpack the real reason many men feel "not good enough" and why trying to manage your partner's emotions keeps you stuck. You'll learn how codependency forms, why her
From "Man Up" to Showing Up: Former Pro Athlete on Healing, Emotional Safety & Real Connection
If you've ever been praised at work and lost at home, you're not alone. My good friend and guest on today's episode is Paul Coleman, who thought "providing" was enough for his family… until conflicts, distance, and a daughter's simple note exposed the truth: true connection with loved ones was a skill and he was lacking in it. Paul is a former professional athlete and top 1% California real estate
Wife or Bust: Dating With Integrity, Courage & Clarity (feat. Chris Bates & Joel Cochran)
Modern dating is a minefield of mixed signals, ghosting, and people saying they want "real connection" while avoiding the real work it takes to build one. But what if the chaos wasn't a punishment - what if it's a mirror? In this episode, two men pull back the curtain on how to date with radical transparency and integrity in a world full of band-aids and quick fixes. Chris Bates, Dating Coach for
Retired Army Colonel Hit Rock Bottom with Alcohol and is Now an Advocate for Healing and Feeling?
Jack is a 24-year Army combat veteran who retired into a quiet house and a loud nervous system. Without the mission and tribe, drinking became the go-to "solution." In this honest conversation, Jack shares how rock bottom in a VA emergency room cracked him open, how default coping mechanisms kept him stuck, and how Healthy Men-tality gave him the structure, community, and tools to regulate, take o
Beyond "Just Breathing" | How Facilitated Breathwork Rewires Your Life (Feat. Jana McKinney)
Today I'm joined by Jana McKinney, CEO & Founder of Get Living Breathwork, to unpack why facilitated breathwork can shift you faster and deeper than years of white-knuckling or logic-only therapy. We get into the physiology (vagus nerve, diaphragmatic breathing, nitric oxide), the three layers of breathwork (awareness, daily regulation, journey work), and how journey-style sessions surface and rel
Divorced. Numb. Lost. Here's What Changed for Kyle After Joining Healthy Men-tality
Kyle's story is proof that you don't have to stay stuck in the pain of divorce, disconnection, or old patterns. In this episode, Kyle, one of the men currently inside Healthy Men-tality my 12-week coaching program just for men - shares his journey of hitting rock bottom after a blindsiding divorce, how he almost drowned in alcohol and isolation, and why he finally chose to get support. Inside the
I Spent $7,000 on a Matchmaking Service (Here's What Happened)
When we're lonely, it's easy to throw money, time, and hope into quick fixes for love. Matchmaking services promise "high-quality partners" but are they really delivering? I dropped $7,000 on a service that matched me with men who were… let's just say, not exactly husband material. From shocking disclosures to ghosting to inappropriate texts on Christmas, I quickly realized I'd paid a premium for
Are You Fighting Your Partner...or Your Past?
Most couples stay stuck in the same painful cycles because they believe their partner makes them feel unloved, unwanted, disrespected or upset. But when you hand someone else the keys to your emotional state, you give up your agency and ability to regulate your own emotions. The result? Endless reactivity, blame, and miscommunication that leaves both people hurt and defensive. In this solo episode
He Broke Down Crying in a Waffle House at 1am - Then Radically Changed His Life
Most of us get hijacked by spirals of anger, shame, or the "should storms" of life. We either shut down, blow up, or perform our pain for approval. But the cost is high: broken relationships, wasted energy, endless regret, and a nervous system that never feels safe. And while the internet is full of "healing tips," few people are embodying them in real time. Enter Eric Palacios, returning guest, c
Nervous System 101 for Love & Dating
Why is it you can be so chill and peaceful single but the second you start the talking phase or go on a single date with someone - it triggers the anxious spirals, shutdowns, and self-abandonment that leave you doubting your worth and all of the healing work you've been doing single?!? From that feeling of desperation as you wait on a text response (and the torture that ensues when more than a fe
In a Roommate Marriage? Let's Deep Dive Why
A post I shared went viral on "roommate marriages" and it highlighted the same core pains from over 400,000 men: no intimacy, eggshell communication, codependency, betrayal wounds, mental health strain, financial/family entanglements, and deep isolation. When you're dysregulated, you can't desire. Logic can't land when emotions flood the brain. And people-pleasing feels "kind" or loving until you
Why Being "Too Nice" Was Killing His Relationship
For 20 years, John lived in the "nice guy" role… fawning, avoiding conflict, and losing himself in the process. His marriage looked stable on the outside, but inside he felt empty, resentful, and disconnected. When the relationship ended, his first instinct was to date again and fill the emotional hole with someone new. But without facing the childhood wounds and nervous system patterns that sha
Observing Before Reacting: The Skill That Saves Relationships
When emotions run high, most people react from their wounds, not their wisdom. The result? Miscommunication, spiraling arguments, and a lot of "fixing" that doesn't actually solve anything. Whether it's your partner blowing up over a text you didn't answer fast enough or you shutting down the second you feel criticized, these moments aren't about the present, they're about old patterns. And unless
Codependency, Narcissists, and the Real Root of Attraction with Jen Peters
Healing gave her insight. Inner child work gave her peace. In today's episode, I sit down with Jen Peters, an internationally recognized inner child healer and the founder of a 127,000-person inner child healing community. Together, we unpack what actually creates lasting healing for our students and clients - especially for those who've done all the things but still feel stuck. Inside this episod
Religious Trauma, Self-Abandonment & Finding Yourself Again
What if your patterns in love weren't proof that you're broken but invitations to finally come home to yourself? In this powerful episode, I'm joined by Leona Schrock, a fellow coach, podcast host, and former member of the Amish community who shares her journey of leaving religious shame behind, healing after a toxic marriage, and learning how to reconnect with the version of herself she never got
He Thought Breathwork Was BS - Then It Broke Him Wide Open
What if the way you've been showing up in relationships wasn't your fault but it was your responsibility to change? In this powerful case study, Shawn, a men-ber of the Healthy Men-tality program, shares how his fear of abandonment and ADHD led to intense relationship dynamics, shame, and people-pleasing. But through the program, he started healing the root issues… not just the surface symptoms. I
She Moved on QUICK and He Was Left to Pick Up the Pieces
He couldn't eat. He couldn't sleep. His wife had left, moved on, and was still emotionally entangled with him—while dating someone new. And Chris? He was stuck. In this powerful case study episode, I interview Chris, a former firefighter and Healthy Men-tality Graduate, about his journey through a heartbreaking ending of his 10 year marriage, the subsequent emotional collapse, nervous system dysr
How to Stop Sabotaging Peace and Start Feeling Safe in Love
You ever feel like you're the one who gets it emotionally, but still can't stop chasing people who aren't good for you? In this listener Q&A episode, I answer real questions from women and men navigating heartbreak, avoidance, divorce guilt, and that all-too-familiar spiral of "why do I keep doing this?" You'll hear coaching around: Why your body craves people who are bad for you (even when your
The 3-Month Healing Journey That Years of Therapy Couldn't Touch
This isn't a before-and-after story. This is the during. The messy middle. The part where healing actually happens. In today's episode, I sit down with Elizabeth, a member of my Self Aware Army, who found herself in a season of overwhelming loss, burnout, and grief from losing several loved ones in a very short period of time… and decided to do something radically brave when she had lost all hope:
Why So Many Men Can't Receive Love - and How to Fix It (ft. Jim Vance)
If you're a man (or in relationship with a man) who shuts down, spirals with intrusive thoughts of not feeling like enough, or suddenly you're seeking attention and validation from everyone else except your partner - this episode is for you. In today's deep, raw, and practical conversation, I sit down with Men's Coach Jim Vance of The Conscious Man to talk about why so many men struggle in love,
Are All Men Toxic? Or Is It You?
If your dating and relationship life feels like one long loop of situationships, betrayals, or emotional neglect… this episode is for you. I pull zero punches in this solo truth-sesh that unpacks: Why your nervous system is choosing familiarity over fulfillment How projection and past pain create toxic dating patterns The myth of "all men" or "all women" being the problem Why shame isn't t
Stop Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Partners: Nervous System Dating Advice with Kayle Ersek
This episode is the self aware dating collab the internet needed: Tara and Kayle Ersek (of The Dating Collective) team up for an emotionally intelligent, no-BS look at modern dating through a nervous system lens. Whether you've been ghosted, breadcrumbed, stuck in a situationship or are wondering why your "good on paper" matches never lead to real intimacy - this episode is going to hit home! They
The Science of Why You Keep F*cking Up Your Own Peace
You don't need a new job, a new relationship, or a 10-step morning routine to change your life. You just need to understand how your brain actually works. In this quick solo episode, I'm breaking down the exact 5-step process that explains why you do what you do and how to finally feel more in control of your thoughts, emotions, and reactions. Whether you're constantly people-pleasing, shutting do
Dating After Divorce, Avoiding the Bullsh*t, and Exploring Polyamory with Dating Coach Kam Berard
If dating feels like a dumpster fire… you're not alone. But what if it's not the apps, the avoidants, or your bad luck? What if the way you're dating is still rooted in who you had to be, not who you are now? In this raw and expansive conversation, Tara sits down with dating coach Kam Berard to unpack why modern dating often feels so disheartening—and how to reconnect with your self-worth, standar
Coaching Episode: Why You Keep Choosing People Who Don't Choose You
In this raw and real coaching session, I sit down with podcast listener Marissa, who's exhausted by dating, tired of always giving more in relationships, and wondering why the "right" guys keep fading away. She's done with breadcrumbing. Fed up with chasing clarity. And deeply craving a relationship where love and effort go both ways. Together, we unpack: What happens when you attract men who mi
Coaching Episode: He Was Supposed to Be Safe — What Happens When You Find Out He's Not?
When your whole life explodes in a single moment, how do you survive it—let alone heal? In this raw, vulnerable conversation, Brittany shares what happened when she found out her husband had been sexually abusing their daughter. Overnight, she went from wife to single mom, from deeply loyal to deeply shattered. We talk about the silent trauma so many women carry, what it really means to regulate y
"I Lost My Marriage to Anger and Shame" | Real Coaching Call with a Divorced Dad
Chuck is 28, mid-divorce, and drowning in self-blame, rage, and regret. In this powerful real-time coaching session, we unpack the emotional spirals, survival patterns, and nervous system triggers that kept him stuck—and how to start healing them. We talk co-parenting, inner child work, breathwork, emotional regulation, and what it actually means to "do the work" when you're just trying to keep y
WTF Does "Do the Work" Even Mean? (Bob's Story)
When Bob first came across the Healthy Men-tality Program, he was stuck, confused, and about to lose his marriage. His wife told him he needed to "do the work" — but no one could tell him what that actually meant. In today's episode, Bob shares his raw, honest journey through heartbreak, healing, and what it really takes to rebuild your life after divorce or relationship breakdowns. We dive into:
Why Men Struggle to Speak Up (and How My Client Mark Found His Voice)
In this episode, Coach Tara sits down with Mark, a husband, father, and graduate of our Healthy Men-tality program, who shares what it's really like for a man to go on a healing journey. They unpack the emotional toll of people-pleasing, what happens when fight-or-flight hijacks your relationship, and how nervous system tools and accountability changed how Mark shows up—for himself and those he l
You're Not Crazy—You're Just Dysregulated
Ever find yourself spiraling over a text, freezing in conflict, or walking on eggshells with a partner or boss? You're not overreacting. You're not crazy. You're just dysregulated—and your nervous system is trying to protect you the only way it knows how. In this solo episode, Tara breaks down: What nervous system dysregulation actually is The 4 trauma responses: fight, flight, freeze, and faw
Healing the Boy to Reveal the Man (ft. Ryan O'Keefe)
What happens when a man finally decides to stop running from his pain—and starts getting honest about his patterns? In this guest episode, I sit down with Ryan O'Keefe, a 7-figure entrepreneur and father who's spent the last several years doing deep emotional healing work. From father wounds and failed relationships to confronting his own emotional immaturity, Ryan shares what it really takes for
How I Fell for a Love Bomber (and What It Taught Me About Attachment)
Dating after divorce is a special kind of WTF. If you've ever been love-bombed, ghosted, or caught in an emotional tornado, you're not alone. In this episode, I'm breaking down the mind games, the attachment styles at play, and how to avoid falling into the same dumpster fire of situationships over and over again. What You'll Learn: Why dating after divorce can feel like an emotional rollercoast
Overcoming The Dumpster Fire that is Dating After Divorce with Adam Kiddoo
Dating after divorce is like walking through a minefield blindfolded—with a bunch of people telling you what you should be doing while they're also clueless. If you're tired of the ghosting, the red flags, and the never-ending cycle of swiping with zero results, this episode is for you. What You'll Learn: Why dating apps feel like a dumpster fire—and how to avoid the worst of it How self-awarenes
Stuck in Resentment? How to Forgive & Rebuild Your Relationship
What do you do when you want to move forward in your relationship, but resentment and old wounds keep pulling you back? In this episode, we dive into a powerful listener-submitted question about forgiveness, healing from past relationship trauma, and the emotional baggage that keeps us stuck. Brittany, a listener, shares her struggle with resentment, unprocessed pain, and the difficulty of letting
Post-Divorce Reality: Healing, Dating & Parenting Through the Chaos
Going through a divorce is one thing—learning how to heal, co-parent, and rebuild your life is another. In this episode, one of the Unblock Your BS Listeners, Stephanie, and I dive into what it really looks like to start over after divorce. She shares her journey of navigating emotional triggers, creating stability for her kids, and how self-awareness changed everything for her post-divorce. If yo
"Starting Over Alone" A Divorced Dad's Journey Through Loneliness, Identity & Healing
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What if the reason you can't "just move on" isn't because you're broken—it's because your body is still holding on to the pain? In this episode, I sit down with my best friend, Victoria, a fellow Somatic Release Breathwork Practitioner, to dive into how heartbreak and trauma actually get stuck in your nervous system—and how breathwork became the missing piece that finally set her free after years
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🚨 What if the way you BREATHE is keeping you stuck? 🚨 What if I told you that your breath—the thing you do 20,000 times a day—is the most powerful, untapped tool you have for rewiring your nervous system, releasing trauma, and shifting your mental state instantly? In today's episode, I sit down with breathwork and cold exposure coach Steven Roccazzella of Ice Life TN —a former law enforcement offi
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Relationships can feel like a constant push and pull — who leads, who nurtures, and how do we find balance? So many of us struggle with the tension between independence and vulnerability, strength and softness, logic and emotion. Whether you're someone who's been told you're "too much" or you feel lost in today's shifting gender roles, this conversation will help you understand why we show up the
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Have you ever found yourself stuck in a pattern, wondering why you're drawn to the same types of relationships or struggling to make meaningful connections? This episode dives into the roots of those patterns.. spoiler alert, it often starts in childhood! In this episode, Tara sits down with Brian, a listener who reached out for a coaching session. Brian, in his late 40s and living in a small tow
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