LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS
Jessica Da Silva, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Attachment Coach, hosts this podcast to help listeners transform their love lives through practical, relatable insights. She breaks down attachment styles in an easy-to-understand way, sharing her personal journey toward secure attachment, real client stories, conversations with guest experts, and tools for healing and creating healthier relationships.
Episodes
Emotional Awareness Versus Emotional Maturity
You know your attachment style and understand your triggers, but still fall into the same patterns. In this episode, I share personal experiences and relatable examples to explore emotional awareness versus emotional maturity, and how to move from explaining your reactions to pausing, communicating, and repairing.Learn about attachment coaching with Jessica one-on-one here.
Your Needs Are Valid...And So Are Their Limits
Are you asking for too much or asking someone who can’t give you what you need? In this episode, we explore the difference between valid needs and unrealistic expectations, how to ask without pressuring, and when to accept someone’s limits or walk away. Your needs matter. So does their capacity.Learn about Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.
What Each Attachment Style Sacrifices to Stay in a Relationship
What does your attachment style cause you to sacrifice in order to keep a relationship?In this episode, I explore how anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant attachment can influence what we tolerate, give up, or mistake for “healing” in relationships, and how to tell the difference between healthy compromise and losing yourself.We’ll also explore one important question: What is this relationship
Dating Securely After Loving an Avoidant
Dating after loving an avoidant can change the way you experience connection, chemistry, and even security. In this episode, I’m sharing what I’ve learned personally and professionally about dating more securely—without letting old attachment patterns choose for you.Ready to go deeper with your attachment patterns? Learn more about 1:1 Attachment Coaching with me.
Dating Securely After Loving an Anxious Attacher
In this episode, I’m talking about what it looks like to date securely after loving someone with anxious attachment. We’ll explore how an anxious relationship can shape the way you experience closeness, independence, reassurance, and even another person’s disappointment—and how those experiences can follow you into future relationships. I also unpack the difference between healthy relational needs
Secure Attachment Taught Me Discernment
In this episode, I’m talking about one of the biggest lessons secure attachment has taught me: discernment. I share how my past relationship patterns shaped the way I chose love, how I’ve learned to separate attachment wounds from genuine incompatibility, and why becoming more secure sometimes means choosing self-trust, patience, and alignment over immediate connection.--> Get Personalized Atta
Temperament vs. Attachment: Are You Really Anxious or Avoidant?
In this episode, we’re exploring the difference between temperament and attachment and how qualities like independence, sensitivity, introversion, emotional intensity, or a need for connection can interact with our attachment wounds. We’ll also talk about what happens when two people’s temperaments continually trigger each other, and how to distinguish between something that needs healing and a ge
The Avoidant's Biggest Lie: "I'm Trapped"
Why does healthy love sometimes feel suffocating?In this episode, we're exploring one of the biggest misconceptions behind avoidant attachment: the belief that feeling trapped automatically means something is wrong with the relationship. Together, we'll unpack how childhood experiences, attachment wounds, and our nervous system can cause us to mistake closeness for control, compromise for
The Ugly Truth About Healing Attachment Wounds
You finally meet someone who's consistent, emotionally available, and genuinely cares about you... so why does your nervous system want to run?In this episode, I break down why healing attachment wounds often feels more uncomfortable before it feels secure. We'll explore what's happening in your brain and nervous system, why healthy love can feel threatening when it's unfamiliar, a
What God Taught Me About Secure Attachment
In this episode, I share what God taught me about secure attachment, why people will inevitably let us down, and how finding security in something greater than ourselves can transform the way we experience love and relationships.💛 Just getting started? Check out the Secure Self Toolkit for attachment rewiring meditations, communication scripts, a trigger guide, and practical tools to help you beco
Lessons From Dating an Avoidant and an Anxious Partner
In this episode, I share the lessons I've learned from dating both avoidant and anxious partners, how each relationship highlighted different areas for growth, and why the goal isn't hyper-independence or over-dependence—but healthy interdependence.If you enjoyed this episode and are ready to start creating healthier patterns in your love life, check out my Secure Self Toolkit, filled with
Why Anxious + Avoidant Relationships Can Work
Are anxious and avoidant relationships really doomed, or have we oversimplified the conversation?In this episode, Jessica explores why attachment styles alone don't determine relationship success, the difference between unhealthy and challenging relationships, and how self-awareness, communication, and growth can help anxious and avoidant partners create a healthier dynamic together.💛 Work wit
The Paradox of Avoidant Healing: Learning to Lean Into Intimacy Despite the Fear
In this episode, we explore the paradox of avoidant healing and why intimacy can feel both deeply comforting and deeply threatening at the same time.We talk about:why avoidant attachers often push away the very connection they desirethe fear of dependency, vulnerability, and losshow hyper-independence has disconnected many of us from healthy emotional reliancewhy intimacy is so much more than sexa
Building Connection From Stability, Not Emotional Need
Why do we crave connection so deeply… yet feel so unstable in relationships?In this episode, I dive into the difference between seeking love from emotional need versus a grounded, secure place within yourself. I share my personal journey—from feeling anxious, reactive, and lost in relationships to developing what I now call the Secure Self—and how this shift changed everything.We’ll explore how yo
The Avoidant Experience: Love, Numbness & Inner Conflict With Bilnita Armstead
In this episode, I sit down with Bilnita Armstead, a listener of the podcast, who shares her experience navigating a dismissive/fearful avoidant attachment style. We talk about how early relationship patterns, often learned from our parents, shaped her view of love and connection, and how getting hurt in relationships led her to become emotionally numb and avoidant. She opens up about the push-pul
The Attachment Rollercoaster: How to Feel Without Losing Control
In this episode, we explore why love can feel like an emotional rollercoaster—full of intense highs and painful lows. You’ll learn how different attachment styles shape your reactions in relationships and, more importantly, how to stay grounded, self-regulate, and feel deeply without losing yourself in the process.Learn about 1-1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.
Feeling Like You’re the Problem in an Anxious–Avoidant Relationship
In this episode, we unpack why anxious attachers often feel like they’re “too much” in relationships — especially when paired with avoidants. I break down how this dynamic creates a distorted sense of responsibility, why you’re not actually the problem, and how unmet needs drive anxious expression. We’ll also cover how to find balance, when it’s time to walk away, and what both anxious and avoidan
Anxious & Avoidant: The Intellectual Intimacy Trap
In this episode, we explore the intellectual intimacy illusion — the trap many anxious and avoidant pairings fall into when deep conversations and shared ideas feel like emotional connection, but something essential is still missing. I unpack the difference between feeling mentally understood versus emotionally seen, why anxious and avoidant dynamics often bond through intellect, and how this can
From Insight to Real Change in Attachment Patterns
A grounded conversation about why insight alone doesn’t change attachment patterns, and how real healing happens through consistent, embodied action.Learn about 1-1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.
Secure Dating vs. Survival Dating
Modern dating is exhausting because most people are dating from nervous-system survival mode instead of from their Secure Self.In this episode, I break down the difference between survival dating and secure dating, why swipe culture keeps anxious and avoidant patterns alive, and what it actually looks like to date from clarity, safety, and self-trust.You’ll learn how to recognize when your attachm
How Your Attachment Style Was Formed
In this episode, we explore how your attachment style was formed and why you experience love the way you do. You’ll learn what emotional attunement is, how early connection shaped your nervous system, and why your patterns in relationships aren’t who you are—they’re adaptations. Learn about 1-1 attachment coaching with Jessica here.
It Wasn’t The Avoidant: Healing The Parts That Made You Lose Yourself with Alix B. (Client Stories)
In this episode, I sit down with a former coaching client to unpack the all-too-common experience of losing yourself in a relationship, especially when you have an anxious attachment style.We talk about what happens when you prioritize your partner over your own needs, slowly sideline your friendships, and stay committed to someone whose words say one thing but whose actions say another. She share
Six Habits of Securely Attached People (And How You Can Learn Them)
Secure attachment isn’t something you’re born with, it’s something you can learn. Today, we’re walking through six habits that define secure individuals and how you can begin embodying them, no matter your starting point. If you’re craving healthier love, deeper self-trust, and emotional stability, this episode is your roadmap.Get 75% off the My Secure Self E-Course here. (Offer ends 11/30)Learn a
When Abandonment Is Emotional, Not Physical
Abandonment isn’t always about someone leaving. Sometimes, it’s about being unseen, unheard, or emotionally dismissed by the people closest to us. In this episode, I explore what emotional abandonment looks like, how it shapes our attachment style, and what we can do to begin healing from it.If you’re ready to break free from patterns of abandonment and feel secure within yourself and your relatio
Healing Your Attachment Through God with Gretchen Costanzo
In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with Gretchen Costanzo, a certified integrative attachment coach and creator of the Living Connected Method, to talk about what it means to create a secure relationship with God — and how transformational that can be for your healing and relationships. We explore how God can become your steady rock, the connection between faith and secure attachment, and what
Passive vs. Rigid Anxious Attacher: Two Faces of Anxious Attachment
Not all anxious attachers look the same. In this episode, I explore the Passive Anxious Attacher, who protects against loss by shrinking back, and the Rigid Anxious Attacher, who holds on tightly to feel secure. You’ll learn how to tell the difference, why both stem from the same fear of abandonment, and how to begin moving toward secure connection.💛 Learn more about my Attachment Coaching Service
Passive vs. Rigid Avoidant Attacher: Two Faces of Avoidant Attachment
Not all avoidants look the same. In this episode, I break down the two common ways avoidant attachment shows up in relationships: the Passive Avoidant, who protects themselves by shrinking back, and the Rigid Avoidant, who protects themselves through control and high standards. You’ll learn how to spot the difference, why it matters, and how each can begin moving toward more secure and fulfilling
What Does Relationship Compatibility Really Mean?
In this episode of Let’s Talk Attachments, we dive into what compatibility in relationships really means—and why it matters so much more than chemistry alone. I’ll break down how to recognize true alignment in core values, lifestyle choices, emotional needs, and long-term goals, and share practical ways anxious, avoidant, fearful-avoidant, and secure attachers can assess compatibility in their dat
Going Deep Too Soon vs. Secure Pacing in Dating
Diving deep too quickly in dating can feel exciting, but it often creates premature emotional bonds that blur your judgment of compatibility. In this episode, I explore why anxious and fearful avoidant attachers are especially prone to oversharing, rushing intimacy, and confusing emotional closeness with true alignment. You’ll learn practical ways to pace yourself—so you can stay authentic while a
How I Molded Myself to Be a Magnet for Avoidant Partners
In this episode, I open up about how I subconsciously molded myself to attract avoidant partners and how that pattern was rooted in my earliest experiences of love. I share how I learned to appear “cool,” independent, and unattached in order to feel wanted, and why that left me feeling disconnected and unfulfilled in relationships.If you’ve ever found yourself downplaying your needs, pretending to
Thriving at Work Struggling in Love With Carly Ann
Why is it that ambitious, successful women can thrive in their careers but feel lost in love?In this episode, Attachment Therapist and Coach Carly Ann joins me to explore the emotional disconnect that many high-achieving women experience in relationships.We dive into:How codependency is hardwired into our understanding of loveThe difference between caring for a partner vs. trying to fix or save th
Growing Pains of Becoming Securely Attached
This week on the podcast, we’re talking about the growing pains of becoming securely attached.It’s not just sunshine and inner peace—real healing requires honesty, self-responsibility, and often, some very uncomfortable shifts.Whether it’s walking away from misaligned connections, holding firmer boundaries, or realizing that peace is better than intensity… becoming secure means learning to trust
How Avoidant Attachment Can Lead to Selfish Tendencies
We often talk about the emotional distance of avoidant attachers—but what if that “selfishness” is actually a protective coping mechanism?In this episode, I unpack how avoidant attachment can stem from emotional neglect and how hyper-independence becomes a substitute for unmet emotional needs. I share a personal story, common patterns I see in clients, and why adjusting expectations (on both sides
How Anxious Attachment Can Lead to Selfish Tendencies
What if some of your anxious attachment behaviors are actually rooted in…selfishness? Not because you don’t care—but because fear can make everything feel urgent and all about you.In this episode, I share my own hard truths, the rigid expectations I used to set, and how healing started when I finally saw the bigger picture.This one’s for anyone ready to trade “me-focused” survival patterns for tru
How Avoidance Sabotaged My Dating Life and What I Did About It With Lexi Stout (Client Stories)
Today on the podcast, we’re joined by Lexi Stout—a former coaching client who opens up about her journey of recognizing how her avoidant attachment style was impacting her dating life, and what she’s been doing to break old patterns and move toward healthy relationships.We dive into:How her avoidant attachment kept her stuck in unfulfilling situationshipsLearning to open her heart and receive love
What If Your Attachment Style Isn’t What You Thought?
Ever taken an attachment quiz and thought, “Yup, I’m anxious”… only to find yourself totally avoidant once real intimacy kicks in? In this episode, I dive into why your feelings might say one thing, but your behaviors—especially under stress—reveal the real story. I’m sharing insights, patterns to look for, and a personal dating example that might sound all too familiar. Let’s untangle the truth t
The Unspoken Pain of Avoidant Attachment
In this episode, we explore the hidden struggles behind avoidant attachment through a candid conversation with someone who’s lived it.We discuss:🔹 Why he resisted change in past relationships — believing emotional distance was a strength🔹 How self-protection became self-disconnection🔹 The breakup that made him realize his avoidant patterns were the root cause🔹 Why avoidants do love deeply — and ho
What Dating Securely Has Taught Me
In this personal episode, I take you behind the scenes of a recent dating experience that stirred up both growth and grief — and revealed just how far I’ve come on my attachment healing journey.As someone who used to operate from a fearful avoidant (leaning anxious) attachment style, I now move through dating with much more self-trust, clarity, and compassion. But that doesn’t mean the old pattern
Letting Go of Unavailable Love: Meghan’s Journey to Security (Client Stories)
Today on the podcast, we’re joined by the lovely Meghan Gatto.Meghan went through the My Secure Self group coaching program this past summer with the goal of deepening her understanding of anxious attachment — and learning practical tools to break unhealthy relationship patterns.In this episode, we dive into:Breaking the cycle of anxious attachmentAttraction to avoidant partners—and how to stop
Healing Anxious Attachment and Learning to Be Okay Alone With Joe Reilly (Client Stories)
Today, I’m excited to introduce Joe Reilly, an incredible human and former coaching client of mine, who has been actively working to break his anxious attachment patterns and step into his secure self. We dive into:The challenges of anxious attachmentHis pattern of dating avoidant partners and where that inclination comes fromHealing through a recent breakupLearning to be okay with being aloneHow
How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Relationship to Money With Shamina Taylor
If you’ve been listening to the podcast for a while, you know I love exploring how attachment styles impact all areas of life—not just relationships with people. Through my own healing work, I’ve noticed that as I became more secure and confident within myself, that same transformation began to reflect in my relationship with everything—including money!That’s why I invited Shamina Taylor, a former
Commitment vs. Compatibility: Are You in the Right Relationship?
In this episode, I explore the difference between commitment and compatibility, sharing my personal experience navigating these challenges in a past relationship. I also discuss how to recognize the distinction, helping you better assess whether you’re in the right relationship.Learn about attachment coaching with me here.
Saying "No" to Emotional Unavailability and "Yes" to Secure Love With Sabrina Zohar
Today on the podcast, I'm joined by dating coach Sabrina Zohar—best known for her transformative podcast, The Sabrina Zohar Show. She brings a no-nonsense, straightforward approach to relationship advice.In this episode, we discuss: Sabrina’s journey from anxious to secure attachment. The reality of managing anxiety—it doesn’t just disappear. The power of nervous system regulation for those w
Embracing The Messy, Non-Linear Path of Grief With Melina Charis
Today on the podcast we have Melina Charis. She is a writer and mentor for women moving through grief and heartbreak. She has 10+ years experience with ceremonial + somatic healing practices and 6+ years experience holding space for others, but her greatest teachers by far have been motherhood, death, grief and life itself.We cover:Grieving breakups, death, identity shifts, and more.How unprocesse
1-Year Breakup Update: A Personal Reflection
If you've been following my breakup journey, I wanted to share an update on my healing process now that it's been 1 year. My hope is that this gives you insight into the grief cycle, the messiness of healing, and reassurance that things do get better.Work With Me : Attachment Coaching - CLICK HEREPrevious recorded break-up updates:- Recovering From Heartbreak - 8 Month Update (Through a Secure L
Is It Them or Me? Separating My Avoidant Fears With Randy Hamama (Client Stories)
In today’s episode, former client and dismissive avoidant attacher Randy Hamama shares his journey of navigating insecurities in a new relationship. He discusses common avoidant struggles, such as discerning fears from authentic desires, staying present when the urge to withdraw arises, identifying what makes a partner feel safe for avoidants, and understanding when it’s worth staying with an avoi
How Our Attachment Style Influences Our Relationship to Food and our Body With Vanessa Scaringi and Kathryn Garland
Today on the podcast, Vanessa Scaringi, PhD, CEDS-C, a licensed psychologist and certified eating disorder specialist supervisor, and Kathryn Garland, LCSW-S, CEDS-C, a clinical social worker and certified eating disorder specialist supervisor, discuss:
How attachment styles influence our relationship with our body and eating habits
How different attachment styles may experience eating disorde
From Heartbreak to Finding Love With Hannah Flynn (Client Stories)
In today's episode, the wonderful Hannah Flynn, a former client of mine, shares her journey of navigating her avoidant attachment style, overcoming deception and heartbreak, and ultimately finding healthy, secure love.
We discuss:
The challenges of communication with an avoidant attachment style.
The importance of addressing conflict rather than avoiding it to maintain peace.
The pain of bein
Getting Attached to Things Outside of Our Relationships (Personal Share)
I had a revelation recently with a big life change. I noticed similar insecure ways of thinking and feeling surface that resembled how I used to feel in unhealthy relationship dynamics. The goal with this episode is to help you reflect on how you may be "insecurely attaching" to things outside of your relationships, such as your home, belongings, items, routines, goals, dreams, by highlighting sim
Redefining Your Perspective on Needs With Chris Rackliffe
Today on the podcast we have Chris Rackliffe, also known as @crackliffe. He is a trauma healer, mental health advocate, anxious attachment style coach, and author of the new self-help book, Needy No More: The Journey From Anxious to Secure Attachment—available exclusively on Amazon beginning November 19, 2024. Chris has worked with countless clients across five continents to help them heal their a
Somatic Experiencing for Healing Attachment Wounds With Lisa May Francisco
Today on the podcast we have Lisa May Francisco who is a first-generation Filipino women’s empowerment coach, Kundalini yoga teacher, EFT practitioner, and host of the Sacred Femme Alchemy podcast. She leads women to bust through their emotional blocks, reclaim unshakable self-worth, and unleash their wild, authentic selves through potent spiritual coaching and transformative practices. We talk ab
Identifying Subtle Signs of Dismissiveness in Your Partner and It’s Impact on Your Well-Being
In this episode, I discuss identifying subtle forms of dismissiveness in a partner and its impact on our well-being from a personal and general perspective. It's easy to overlook milder forms of rejection, especially if we consider our loved ones "good people." But if we don't become aware of these troubling mild behaviors, they can perpetuate our feelings of disconnection and insecurity within ou
How to Connect to Your Authentic (Secure) Self With Rebecca Haddock (Client Stories)
Today on the podcast, we have a special guest: Rebecca Haddock. She is a badass businesswoman, scientist, inventor, and president of her company, Equitape. Rebecca is also a former client of mine who originally came to me seeking support in breaking her unhealthy attachment patterns, specifically tendencies associated with avoidant attachment.In this episode, we talk about…-Typical relationship ch
How Our Attachment Styles Affect Our Break-Ups With Lucy Price
On this podcast the podcast we have Lucy Price. Lucy is a breakup and relationship coach who helps individuals heal from heartbreak, get over their exes, and create fulfilling lives. Lucy specializes in guiding clients through the emotional challenges of breakups, teaching self-love, and helping them rebuild confidence and clarity for the future.
We talk about:
-How our attachment styles are refl
An Inside Look into the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Mind With Licensed Therapist Patch McCormick
Today on the podcast, we have Patch McCormick, a former ad man turned relationship therapist for men, couples, and groups. Individually, he helps men earn secure attachment with a combination of IFS, EMDR, CBT, and various somatic tools. He's incredibly passionate about teaching assertiveness and how to build confidence. Patch was bold enough to agree to come onto my podcast and share his personal
Recovering From Heartbreak - 8 Month Update (Through a Secure Lens)
I wanted to share an update on my break-up recovery process, as I know many of you have found comfort in hearing about my experience, understanding you're not alone and finding ways to navigate the challenges through a secure approach.
In this episode I share:
-How I've been feeling after 8 months post break-up.
-How I've been navigating the 5 stages of grief and it's natural high
How to Not "Attach" Quickly When Dating
Learn why you may attach quickly and intensely to people in the early stages of dating, as well as how to take more of a detached approach to lessen the anxiety and stress you experience when others aren't consistent or pull away.
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A Males Perspective on Having an Anxious Attachment Style With Jason Berry
Today on the podcast, we have Jason Berry. He is a podcaster, entrepreneur, and amateur Hyrax athlete. A few months ago, I was a guest speaker on his podcast @awakenoutofcontext, where we discussed attachment styles. I loved his vulnerability and personal insights so much that I invited him onto my podcast to talk more about his experience with having an anxious attachment style.
In this episode,
The Attachment Styles and Taking Things Personally
If you have an anxious, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant attachment style, it’s most likely you are self-conscious and therefore take things personally. This can be problematic as we can distort the reality of a situation and therefore engage in self-sabotaging behaviors.
In this episode, I share how each insecure attachment style takes things personally, the implications, and how to stop
How the Attachment Styles Experience Being Single
In this weeks podcast episode I talk about how anxious, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant and secure attachments experience single-hood and ways to navigate these often challenging phases with more ease.
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Recovering From Heartbreak (Through a Secure Lens)
In this episode, I share my personal experience of recovering from my recent breakup of almost 7 years (from a secure approach).
Is the grass greener on the other side? Tune in to learn more :)
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How to Communicate With Someone Who Has Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn helpful tips on how to communicate with someone who has a fearful avoidant attachment style.——— 1-1 Attachment Coaching: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
How to Communicate With Someone Who Has a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style
Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn what these emotional needs are for the dismissive avoidant attachment style, how to address them, and helpful tips for effective communication.
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1-1 Attachment Coaching: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
How to Communicate With Someone Who Has an Anxious Attachment Style
Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn what these emotional needs are, how to address them with those you love, and helpful tips on how to communicate effectively to create emotional intimacy.
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Attachment Coaching (for individual’s and couples) - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
Four Steps to Connect to Your “Secure Self”
In this week's podcast episode, I share four practical ways to connect to your “secure self” so that you can make decisions from a place of authenticity versus insecurity.
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Attachment Coaching - Let’s work together - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
To Stay or Break-up? Leaving My Relationship of Six Years (Personal Share)
Many of you know I was in a relationship for over six years. Though it was a beautiful relationship and healthy in many ways, some major core differences and incompatibilities made it challenging. In this episode, I share the struggle with navigating fear versus truth in our decisions and the importance of trusting yourself.
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1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
Overcoming Relationship Jealousy With Shanenn Bryant
Today on the podcast, we have Shanenn Bryant, a relationship confidence expert, and the host of the Top Self podcast. Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits.
We talk about:
-How jealousy can manifest in your relationships.
-How to change your relationship to jealousy.
-Viewing jealousy as a symptom and solution to
Trauma Recovery for Attachment Styles With Rowan Garlow
Today on the podcast, we have Rowan Garlow, a trauma recovery practitioner who utilizes Voice Dialogue, Somatic Experiencing, Inner Child, and Soul Retrieval for healing and integrating unresolved trauma.
We talk about:
-What is trauma recovery work?
-What attachment trauma looks like specifically.
-How trauma manifests in our behaviors.
-Why your “over-reactions” are gateways to your healing.
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Why We Tolerate Difficult Relationships
In this episode, I talk about why each attachment style tolerates difficult or painful relationships, why we aren’t stuck to these ways of experiencing love, and tips on how to move beyond our limitations.
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Simplifying the Four Attachment Styles with Dr. Anita Knight Kuhnley
Dr. Anita Kuhnley is an author, esteemed scholar, expert counselor, and speaker who just released a book called “The Four Relationship Styles: How Attachment Theory Can Help in Your Search for Lasting Love.”
We talk about:
-The breakdown of each relationship style (aka attachment style).
-Strengths and challenges of each attachment style.
-How knowing the relationship styles help us in dating an
Healthy vs. Unhealthy Compromise Within Relationships with Imani Tutt
Imani Tutt, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Intuitive Coach talks about relationship compromise, why it’s normal, and healthy versus unhealthy compromising.
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Instagram: @imani.intouch
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Difference Between Relationship Anxiety and Relationship OCD with Dr. Holly Batchelder
In this week’s podcast episode, Dr. Holly Batchelder, a Seattle-based licensed clinical psychologist, shares her expertise on relationship anxiety and OCD, their major differences, how they manifest in our lives, and how to treat it to experience a fulfilling life.
You can find Dr. Holly here:
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webiste: www.hollyphd.com
podcast: twinmindsunwind
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Difference Between Needs and Expectations
In this week's podcast episode, I talk about the difference between needs and expectations. Understanding this distinction can alleviate anxiety and create more fulfilling relationships.
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How To Stop Attracting Toxic People
In this week's podcast episode, I address the fear many of us hold about why we attract toxic people and the real (transformative) questions we need to be asking ourselves instead.
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1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2
My Secure Self E-Course - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course
How Alcoholic Parent(s) Influence the Development of Our Attachment Style
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In this week's podcast episode, I share how having alcoholic parents (one or both) can influence the development of anxious, dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant attachment style, as well as steps you can take to shift these patterns and learned identity.
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1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2
My Secure Self - https://jessicadasilva.my
How I Navigate the Distance in My Relationship (Anxious - Avoidant Dynamic)
In this week's podcast episode, I share my personal experience with navigating the distance in my relationship, as we tend to spend long periods apart due to the nature of his work. I also talk about the challenges of anxious-avoidant dynamics and how we make it work.
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My Secure Self - https://jessicadasilva.my
How To Navigate Relationship Ambivalence (Aka, Confusion and Indecision)
Relationship ambivalence (aka, confusion or indecision) is very common for those of us who have an anxious, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant attachment style. In this episode, I help you understand your ambivalence and give you steps to take on how to navigate these complexities with more clarity.
Putting Myself First with Alicia (Client Stories)
Today on the podcast we have a special guest. Alicia is a former attachment coaching client of mine sharing her experience with having an anxious attachment style, learning to let go of control, prioritizing herself and her needs, healing from heartache and abandonment trauma, and understanding how her attachment style impacts so many significant areas of her life.
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How to Measure Your Progress in Developing a Secure Attachment Style
Dismantle misconceptions about developing a secure attachment style and learn how to measure your progress accurately.
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How Each Attachment Style Experiences 5 Stages of a Relationship
Learn about how each attachment style moves through the 5 relationship stages. This episode focuses highly on the insecure attachment styles (anxious, dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant).
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